Hi y’all. Just popping in for a quick minute to let you know that baby girl is a month old now and doing very well! She is such a sweet, easy-going baby and we are so in love. Of course, it’s all about her right now. Eat, sleep, change and repeat. Man, everyone told us that we would need a ton of diapers, but I don’t think anyone explained the collateral damage diapers!! You know, the ones that never actually make it ON the baby because they are getting dirty catching stuff coming OUT of the baby WHILE you are changing the baby. Man … a case of 100+ diapers gone in less than 2 weeks?!?! What the … what?? LOL! But, it’s all good as she’s so worth it. Of course, this laid back demeanor is possible because baby girl is such an angel and Mommy is getting PLENTY of sleep as Pops started taking the night shift at 2 weeks (but think we need to switch off sometimes so Pops can get some quality daylight time).
Okay, gotta go! But, before I do, here are a couple of pics from our newborn photo shoot! Can’t share them all yet as the baby announcements haven’t been sent. But, once they are, I’ll post more!
More things on my mind …
- People take the miracle of pregnancy for granted. Pregnancy isn’t an easy thing. Although science can describe many things about it, there are still moments in the process that happen and science can’t tell you how or why. So many things need to be in alignment for it to happen that it in my eyes it is nothing short of a miracle.
- Because I believe in the Nguzu Saba Principle of Kujichagulia, which is the Kwanzaa principle that says we define ourselves … I am redefining fatherhood … I am calling it DADDYDOM! Because, when you are a daddy, you are responsible for another’s well-being, like a king. The other parallel is that often others look at the position as one of power, but it is really about responsibility. I know this is a little stretch, but it’s a fun word to say … “DADDYDOM!”
- At the last ultrasound, the technician said that Baby Girl had a head of hair. I feel comfortable doing a ponytail or afro-puffs, but gotta learn how to cornrow hair, do box braids and flat braids now! Awww hell, I’m not fooling anyone … I gotta learn the difference!
- In the future, more fathers will be called Pops and it will be a term for older fathers that are cool because they are who they are, not because they are trying to be young and cool.
- I have times when I lack tact. It’s not often, but it happens at times. I think part of it is because I come from a family where we talked more about being honest and not much about being nice. Being nice was something that was expected as a norm. But “niceness” is something that is taught. How will I teach it? Hmmm … how about, “Do like your mother.”
- I will have to make more decisions on aesthetics without Shelli’s assistance.
- The other day, we saw the movie Selma. Without giving anything away, let me just say that everyone should go see this beautiful movie. And don’t get there late because you are trying not to see all the trailers and previews. Make sure that you see it from start to finish! The movie moved me to tears more than once for a variety of reasons. In the end, it was the reality that my generation of Black people is the first to have the FREEDOM to move around the country and to vote. We’ve had the right, but it wasn’t until LBJ passed the Civil Rights Act outlawing public racial discrimination in 1964 and the Voting Rights Act of 1965 that we had the national governments support to engage us to experience these FREEDOMS. Afterward, I cried in anger, sorrow, and in angst. The feeling that I haven’t done enough hurt SOOOOOO bad. My daughter still has to deal with those who are resistant to the dismantling of the “good ol’ boy” systems and have infiltrated the fields of politics, academia, media, military, and underground covert movements in their quest to maintain the ways and ideologies of the Old South. This isn’t a depressing thought. It is inspiring. Please see this movie and allow yourself to be moved to tears and to take action.
- People take living for granted. Each breath is a gift from God. We shouldn’t just cherish life, but figure out what it is to us as individuals that get us excited about life.
I am thankful for so much and yet I keep asking God for favor and to continue blessing me. I owe God a lot. Everything.
Okay, so some of you may remember that one of the reasons that I started my personal 28 Days of Fitness Challenge, which turned into 365 Days of Fitness, was because I said I wanted to get married this year and refused to shop for a dress fat. LOL!!
Welp, yesterday morning was Day 237 (I still have to workout today) and I’ve lost 25 pounds so far. Yup, I feel good (despite all the junk I ate at NY Comic Con over the last two days! Bleh!!).
So, all that to say …
I’m getting married guys!!!
Yup!! We finally set a date!! LOL!! And, it’ll happen by the 2nd anniversary of our engagement!! So, it really won’t have been that long ;).
It all just came together in the last couple of weeks. We decided to have a small private ceremony followed by a reception with a bigger group of our families and friends. But, there is something a little different about our locale. It’ll be shipboard on our boat at port prior to leaving on a 10 day honeymoon cruise to the Caribbean :)!!! Yeah … no. Not a destination wedding. The only ones “destinating” are Wei and me. LOL!!!
Anywho, can’t wait to share the full deets!! But, because you never know who is reading/watching, we’ll have to wait to do that until all is said and done! Plus, though I would love to share everything as I’m so excited about the concept, the dress, the hair, the shoes, the locale … I’m trying to curb my diarrhea of the mouth so that I can have a big reveal!! But, needless to say, we are very excited and busy planning, but trying to stay as stress-free and low key as possible :).
Welp, that’s it. Just felt like sharing as I know some of you have been waiting for that announcement :)! Thanks for all your support, well-wishes, and encouragement!!