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by Weusi

Ok so … this makes it more than official … I’m really into this natural hair stuff …

I just awoke from a dream …

Shelli and I were holding hands as we got off the subway and went up the stairs, exiting the subway station. We walked past a few of her friends on the steps (I think that this was triggered by seeing Shelli’s friend, LaNora Williams-Clark, randomly last week at the 125th Street stop). I jokingly commented that she was famous as we stopped and talked with her friends.

Afterwards, we walked into what looked like Central Park. The next thing I know, we are at a concert. The stage looked like the top of the BB King marquee. There was a full orchestra and it was rocking! There were not many people. But the ones who were out were partying and many were laying out on blankets listening. Somehow we ended up in the front and we set up our chairs, some little speakers that were connected to the sound system and an old receiver that was controlled by the amp. I don’t know why we had speakers and lawn chairs!!

The next thing we know, Esperanza Spalding comes to the front of the stage. Then, I notice that Robert Glasper is there playing keys. It looks like he’s the Music Director of the band/orchestra. I kept telling Shelli that the Robert Glasper album is so incredible and that (the fact that?) he’s playing with Esperanza is magical!

For some reason, the people in the crowd couldn’t hear clearly, so I turned my little system up so that they could hear better. Then Esperanza, who was between songs, shouted me out by name. Shelli joked about that of course; you know her. Esperanza then continues with her set.

Now … the reason that I know that I’m sprung on this natural hair stuff is because, what made me jump up out of bed and write out this dream is that the part of the dream that I really remember is the various hair style Esperanza rocked during the course of her show!!! And, at the end of the show, she bows to the audience, salutes Robert Glasper and the band, waves to me and then says something about people loving music again and it not being about wardrobe changes. The crowd cheers wildly … then she thanks “whoever Hairscapades is for all these quick and easy hairstyles, because they were more fun than costume changes!”

Shelli just sits there in amazement! She doesn’t say a word! If you know Shelli … that’s a big deal!

After the show, I run into Esperanza at a pretzal vendor in the park. I tell her that I have a surprise for her. We walk back to Shelli and I introduce her as my fiancé  and Esperanza gets all excited. Then I tell her that she’s the person behind Hairscapades. She goes CRAZY! The two of them end up leaving me standing there with a pretzel! I woke up when I was at the vendor truck and he wouldn’t give me any mustard on the side of my pretzel.

Who knows knows what this all means? I DO …

In my mind, this dream makes a few things obvious … I’m a music lovin’ Hairscapades junky that wants Shelli and Hairscapades to blow up!!!

Hmmm … I really gotta get some new hobbies/interest/ride my bike more/exercise … do something!!

the end 

Well, not quite.

Here’s some background on Robert Glasper’s latest project, BLACK RADIO:

And here’s a clip of The Robert Glasper Experiment song, Ahh Yeah, featuring Chrisette Michele and Musiq Soulchild.

This is a tune called, Always Shine, featuring Bilal and Lupe Fiasco. My favorite part is that Robert Glasper is on the baby grand piano and the Fender Rhodes at the same time.

And this is a limited time only link to NPR First Listen of Esperanza Spalding’s upcoming album, RADIO MUSIC SOCIETY.


You can pre-order the album here, on iTunes or wherever you buy music. Please support the art and the artist.


Am I … ?


by Weusi

So …

I just learned of this term “militant natural” … evidently I’m kinda one … but not really sure …

I mean, I know that I’m a little bit of a “militant” … but the term “natural” is really the question here.

See, I know a lil’ sunthin’-sumthin’ about this stuff … but I’m a dude that is still learning about natural hair culture. So, occasionally I’ll ask Shelli about things that just seem to confuse me. Like … “Are you natural if you press your hair?” I mean, in my logic, if your hair is naturally curly but you straightened it, you’re not natural anymore. But I understand that you have just added heat and not any chemicals that are going to permanently alter the structure of your hair. So … ???

Are you still considered natural if you add synthetic hair or the hair of someone else to your head? Again … logically, you don’t call someone who wears a wig or has a lacefront natural, do you? BUT … I understand that this is done on occasion as a protective style so that you don’t damage your natural hair. So … ??

And, if it’s about manipulation of your natural hair pattern then … are braid-outs and twist-outs not natural? Or … if you even style, re-twist or tighten your locs, does that mean you’re not natural? I’m just sayin’ … natural is a kinda abstract term or idea.

I understand if you use natural products on you hair but … when you use natural products to do things like make your locs that are naturally black … have green, gold and red tips and/or highlights … that confuses me. If you use natural products to make your hair look un-natural. Ok .. maybe all that color stuff isn’t natural!?!

Anyway …

Please do not get defensive about these questions! These are questions that S.O.’s may have and I’m just letting you know … we’re a little confused! But we still love you … because honestly, we don’t really care that much about your hair. We just like the fact that you are happy. So … don’t even respond to this … just keep these things in mind and don’t go off on your S.O. when they timidly ask you questions like these.


He Got Game!


I know that many of you have probably already seen this on CurlyNikki.com, but I just had to share it here too!! I had Wei watch it and he cracked up the whole time! I told him, “I thought you were good, but you may have to get your game up!”

I ain’t mad at him!

IT Happened!!


by Weusi

See … uhhh .. what had happened was …

Shelli and I went to a friend’s wedding reception last week.

I know that you read Shelli’s post about her girlfriends wedding reception thingy … and how she saw some co-workers and how she made new friends (that I hope are now reading this!).

What she didn’t tell you was that while she was off speaking, being Ms. Socialite, I was at the table getting grilled by the sisters at the table. One sister was telling some comedic horror stories about past dates and how I need to propose on Christmas or New Year’s. Then it happened. Someone came in with a little baby.

WOW. After the “awwww” moment wore off, I felt the pressure, so I tried to diffuse it:

“See, as a non-married couple, there is extra pressure when you attend a wedding. And now someone is throwing a newborn baby in the mix? I can’t win!”

We all laughed and grazed by conversation about the dynamic of being a couple at a wedding. And then … IT happened!!!

One of the sister told me (without being prompted), “I REALLY LIKE YOUR HAIR!” (Okay … I added the capitalized letters and exclamation point for a sense of emphasis that was only in my head.)

If you could have seen my smile! :mrgreen:

A part of the smile was because I laughed at the John Legend reference that followed the statement, as I’m used to hearing it by now and embraced it as the truly positive compliment it is.

I know this because I’ve been likened to other people and things that were assuredly not compliments! And as I reveled in the moment, I told them why I was so proud to hear such words.

I explained how Shelli ALWAYS gets that comment, that she has a blog and is a NHCI (Natural Hair Care Icon … I’m gonna keep using it, so that one day the term makes it into the Lexicon section!).

When Shelli returned to the table, we continued to talk and I bragged about the compliment. Then, as quickly as I was excited, I was quietly humbled when I remembered that before we left the house, Shelli asked me what I was gonna do with my hair.

BUT THEN … I got proud again …

Because I knew what the answer was. I’d just touch it with my secret, magical mix of juices and berries (Okay, you’re clamoring to know … I’ll just fill you in and let you know that the base is coconut oil). It keeps my hair with a healthy shine and it does something with my curls that Shelli likes. And truthfully, I’m a wash and go kinda dude, so I only have one answer to any hair question! Actually there are two … the second is … “Ask Shelli.”

And I’m sorry, but that’s the end of the story! Yeah, I know, but I’m better at commentary than storytelling.

The key points to remember are …

  1. I know what makes my hair look better and isn’t gonna damage it.
  2. I listen to my lady when I need aesthetic assistance.
  3. I plugged www.HAIRSCAPDES.com to new people.
  4. Shelli was happy (okay … that was a note to myself!).

Ohh … what? … you don’t like the way this ended and you want a little commentary from me? If you insist …

Okay. The wedding reception was cool, although … I’m not a big fan of marriage. I believe that marriage is a matter of love, commitment and communication and between two people. If they choose to share/communicate that with their community or align it with a religious ceremony is on them. I feel like “the formal institution of marriage” deals more with the business of the state than the hearts of the individuals being married. Now, even with this being said … I think that making the person that you feel you would want be with until the end of time happy is worth going through whatever drama that might be involved. I’m glad that Shelli and I are aligned in our repulsion of spectacle. I know that she just wants to take some pictures in a fly wedding dress … (to be continued!).