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Lakisha’s HairStory


Check out the HairStory of our Threadmill HairStory Contest Winner and Hairscapades GOCer, Lakisha!!

Describe yourself in 20 words or less.
I’m Lakisha, affectionately called Kish-Kish by my loved-ones. I’m fun, outgoing and a hoot to be around!!

How long have you been natural and why did you chose to go natural?
I’ve been natural since 2002. Well, at least, that’s when I stopped subscribing to the creamy crack club. My last relaxer was May 2002 and I decided that it was time to give it up. My hair was over-processed and I would require touch-ups every 3 weeks, at least, that’s what I thought. See, I had this thing with super straight edges, if there was a wave, I was searching for my relaxer brush!

Did you transition or big chop?
I transitioned. I really don’t remember the transition process too much because, in the summer, I always wear my hair in mini twists or braids. So, the early days of my transition are really a blur.  Plus, I hadn’t embraced my natural curl yet. I was still getting pressed out religiously. Every two weeks, there was a standing appointment with my stylist. It wasn’t until the summer of 2007 that I first wore my natural, non-pressed, non-braided/twisted hair out. And, as I reflect, I treated my hair HORRIBLE. I would comb it dry, have all kinds of breakage and shedding, grease my scalp, etc.

What is/was your biggest hair challenge/obstacle?  How did you overcome it or what are you doing now to try to address the problem?
I think that my biggest hair challenge is trying to style my own hair. I just began to embrace my curly self, so to speak.  Meaning, using products that are sulfate-free/organic, not using heat (or at least, not as much), not over-shampooing, etc.  I’m one of those women that only touched my hair to pin it up or finger comb it out. Lol. So all this ‘hands-on’ styling and moisturizing is new. Add the fact that I’m addicted to YouTube videos and blogs and want to try EVERY style I see, and it poses yet another obstacle.  But, I’m coping well as of late. I’ve stuck to setting my hair in a TnC and styling it however the wind blows … a headband one day, a pin-up another day and, if all else fails, my puff never lets me down. I’ll continue to be patient with myself and try different styles and see what works for me! I’m up for the challenge.

What do you love most about your natural hair and/or about being natural?
Wash and Go’s! And, the versatility that comes with being natural. I must admit, I’m not fully natural. I mean, I still color my hair (not sold on Henna yet). And I’m not against getting my hair pressed. I do that for special occasions and when I get my hair trimmed. I can’t wait until it gets cooler though, so I can try Bantu knot outs and roller set ponytails. They may replace my presses altogether.

What is your current regimen?  Has it changed in any major way since you first went natural?

I shampoo my hair once a week and do a DC. I then massage my scalp with jojoba oil. The next steps depend on what style I’m going for. I still have yet to find the right sealer for my hair.  I’m using the Shea Moisture hair mist currently.

What are your Holy Grail and staple products?
Shea Moisture Curl and Style Milk and Eco Styler Olive Oil gel! I like the SM Smoothie as well, but no matter when I use it, I get that flake issue that I haven’t been able to resolve. I think that once it’s gone, I won’t be replacing it. I would like to try some different products, but I haven’t gotten up the nerve yet.

What is your “go to” style?
My “go to” style is my wash and go. My motto is, “the bigger the better.” My wash and go never fails me. I just started protective styles. I only use them because I was watching my product wash down the drain every morning because of a failed style or a style that didn’t come out how I thought it should. So now, I do the TnC and use the pineapple method at night.  It lasts me about a week, depending on how much messing in my hair I’ve done.

How often do you cut/trim your hair? How do you cut it (salon, DIY, straight, curly, in twists)?
I let my stylist tell me when I need a trim and I let her trim it. I’m nervous when it comes to scissors.

Has going natural impacted other areas of your life (i.e. health & fitness, style, environmental consciousness, etc.?) If so, how and in what ways has it affected your lifestyle?
I’m undertaking a full transformation: mind, body and spirit. The process has just begun.

Do you have a “hair crush?” If so, who?
Jill Scott. I know that most of her styles are wigs but the way her hair fits her face is fabulous.  She’s my all around girl crush.

Who do you follow online?
I watch at least one YouTube video per day on hair. Lol! And, I have “liked” tons of people on Facebook whose hair stories I find interesting. I also follow a few blogs. I think my favorites are Curly Nikki and Hairscapades.

Where can we find you online?
I haven’t started my blog yet, but I am on Twitter.  You can follow me @kishkish09.

What advice would you give someone who is contemplating going natural and/or becoming discouraged with their natural journey?
Research Research Research!!!! And be sure that you have the time and patience to devote to this life altering change.

Anything else that you’d like to add?
I’m thankful for the opportunity to share!


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Got Skills?


We have our first question in the GOC series, “Got Skills?”!!!

Chandra writes:

So, last night, I did my usual wash, detangle, and deep treatment session. During my detangling process, I realized how dry my hair is at the crown area, which is more than likely due to the color I added in April. I became so frustrated that I began having thoughts of either, a) cutting off all of my hair and starting from scratch or b) I’m afraid to even type these words but….yes….cave in and relax my hair (PMS has you thinking some crazy thoughts). I need input on what type of treatment I could use or styling technique to get this situation together. I trimmed my ends, so I know that will help but is there anything else I can do? Is it possible to henna my hair with permanent color in it? Would a protein treatment help? Needless to say…I am never coloring my hair again. I can tell the difference in curl pattern and the uncolored sections look and feel healthier than the processed sections.

Thank you for your help!

Shelli’s response:

That sucks Chandra. I gave up on highlights long ago as color processes involving lightening inevitably resulted in breakage for my fine hair, relaxed or natural. Thank goodness for grey hair and henna!  Okay, the first things that came to mind when I read your dilemma were:

  1. Are you using a pre-poo? If not, try an oil pre-poo for an hour on your next wash day. If you’ve never tried coconut oil, I would suggest it as it is the only oil with molecules small enough to penetrate the cortex of the hair and restore moisture from within the strand. If coconut oil does not agree with your hair, try EVOO oil instead. I’m suggesting a light oil first as your hair appears fine and something heavier, like EVOO, may weigh it down. You could also try mixing coconut or olive oil with another oil. JBCO, castor, grapeseed, watermelon or jojoba oil may be good options. (Check out this article that was just posted on bglhonline.net about pre-poos!) 
  2. Are you using a leave-in conditioner and sealing with an oil or butter? If not, I’d suggest incorporating both into your regimen.
  3. What kind of deep conditioner are you using? Is it a moisturizing or protein-based DC? If you are using a protein DC, it’s important to follow it with something moisturizing. Too much protein can be too much of a good thing as it can cause dry and brittle hair. My hair isn’t a fan of protein, so I use henna as a strengthening treatment instead. You may want to try a homemade DC or adding some food items to your current DC. Bananas (I picked up baby food bananas this weekend to try in a DC), honey, olive oil, castor oil, avocados (fruit or oil) are all touted for their conditioning properties and are great used alone, in combo or added to a commercial DC. Search “homemade deep treatments” to find a variety of recipes at your fingertips.
  4. You can use Body Art Quality (BAQ) henna over existing chemical color. But, it is imperative that it be BAQ henna or the results could be disastrous. You can also try cassia (so called, “clear” henna), which provides conditioning benefits similar to henna, but without the color. You may want to try this first if you want to preserve your color. The conditioning doesn’t last as long, but cassia only needs to be left on the hair for an hour and there is no dye release, so the process is a lot cleaner (no need for gloves or newspaper) and shorter. 
  5. DON’T RELAX IT*!! LOL!  Seriously, if you already have dryness, applying another chemical process on top of color would be the kiss of death! You’d almost definitely end up chopping it all off and starting from scratch! 

(*Seriously, was it that time of the month for all of us last week?!?! LOL!!)

So, what’s the verdict ladies? Chime in! Have you ever had to deal with dryness caused by a color process? Were you able to do “damage control?” If so, spill!