Just posting this quick baby update from my cell and the WP app before heading out to lunch with the fam to meet friends! Hope it doesn’t look crazy as this is my first time trying this!!
So … it feels like a lot has happened since my last post. I’ve learned a few things in the past 3 months!
Shelli started back to work this week and my role as full time father got EXTRA real, but it felt really natural and I think I handled it well. Being kind of comfortable with the baby has me a little nervous, but then again, I’ve been doing this for 3 months already. I better have some idea of what I’m doing, right?
Well, anyway … I would like to start this with 2 special shout-outs.
Tameeka the Curl Whisperer of Jaded Tresses! At the baby shower, she gave us a bunch of baby wipes. And to my homie Gesthemane for making the baby wipe solution to keep me environmentally conscious! THANK YOU! I had no idea how many we would go through! It’s almost time to re-up!
Other things on my mind …
How can a baby look so cute when they yawn, but have breath that smells worse than spoiled milk! LAWD!
Don’t trust pacifiers.
THANK GOD for pacifiers!
You will know who your real friends are when they humorously respond to the emails and texts that you send in your state of sleep deprivation with serious information.
One should not try to do school work, such as writing papers or studying for a test, when you are on the tail end of the overnight shift when retention and punctuation are important.
You gotta know when and how to maximize the use of the dishwasher.
12 weeks is not 3 months … it’s 12 weeks … but … it’s 3 months too!
The rate of growth and development for a baby is mind blowing! Why were there clothes that she outgrew before she even got to put them on!?!
There is a MAJOR difference between Daddydom and Daddy Dom. When I say Daddydom, I mean fatherhood … not the Daddy Dominatrx kink stuff!
One should remember to take the burp cloth off of their shoulder when going out in public. I keep finding it on my shoulder when I am out and about.
Mixing formula is an art and a science. *hint: warm the water a little before you add the formula.
I still don’t have a nickname for Wyntr. Shelli calls her Pumpkin. Amongst other things, I still call her lil’ mama, peanut butter brown and lil’ doo-wop. I kinda like calling her by her middle name, Abrihet, but my favorite nickname for her is Stinky Booty!
I still don’t know what Wyntr is gonna call me. Right now, I am feeling “Poppy.”
Wyntr is road trip tested and ready to clock mileage! We recently traveled to Trenton, NJ where she saw my 100 year old maternal grandmother.
And then to Charlottesville, VA to see my 86 & 87 year young paternal grandparents (Virginia Granny and Pops).
Then we dipped down to Virgilina, VA for the wedding of Shelli’s cousin, where she met up with the Gillis clan!
Afterwards we went to the Bull City, Durham, NC, and saw my parents and a few of my friends.
(Sorry … all my peoples were in disbelief that I was father and were so in awe of Wyntr that we forgot to take pictures!)
And then to DC to holler at a few more of my friends.
Yeah, we kinda forgot to take pictures again!
And then to Woodstown, NJ where Wyntr got to see Shelli’s other grandmother for the first time!
And her play Aunt Peggy.
And then HOME!
It was a great experience. No baby issues! And Wyntr had the chance to meet all 4 of her great-grandmother’s over the course of a week! That is 4 LIVING generations. Can everyone say GOOD GENES?! I love that we will show her pictures of the history of which she is a part.
I am the baby whisperer/the closer.
The other day, I got Wyntr ready so that we could go out and I could do some shopping!
And then she realized that we were not going to Buy Buy Baby and she went straight to sleep.
The takeaway from the experience: Wyntr is like her mother. She doesn’t like grocery shopping. But Wyntr has only been out shopping with me once. I will make it a part of our routine and I will try to teach her to love it. Secondly, it took me a little work to figure out this Baby Bjorn thingy, but it’s great for going out and doing things when you need 2 hands.
AND YO … Why didn’t anyone warn me that I would gain post-partum weight?! And on that note, is anyone ready for a fitness challenge starting May 1?
And that’s about all I wanna say right now!
It’s Spring and … SHELLI”S BIRTHDAY!!!
It’s officially spring time y’all … “cuff a snuggle buddy b’cus it’s cold outside” season is over! It’s time for LOVE! So come out of hibernation and thaw out. While you are at it please wish Shelli a HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
And in honor of my love and the first day of Spring I want to share a few of my favorite happy, feel good love songs with the Hairscapades community. These are in no particular order. Well except for the first one …
Love on Top by Beyonce (this is our song)
***this video is a homage to New Edition’s If It Isn’t Love
Never too Much by Luther Vandross
As by Stevie Wonder
“I’ll be loving you always … “
Only One by PJ Morton
“You’re the only one that I need … one that I need …”
*** This dude plays keys for Maroon 5 and is signed to Little Wayne’s label Young Money
Nakamarra by Hiatus Kaiyote
“I love you … Love you … “
Fortunate by Maxwell (I gotta throw in a slow jam!)
“I’m so glad you’re in my world …”
***interesting side note that makes me HATE that I LOVE this song … this was written by R. Kelly
So in Love by Jill Scott featuring Anthony Hamilton
“I’m so in love with you … “
Rock with You by Michael Jackson
“you know that love survives … and we can rock forever … “
A few song that made my list but they didn’t have videos …
Kissing You by K’Alyn
Run to the Sun by N.E.R.D.
I am an ex-DJ and can do this forever but i think that it would be more fun if you shared some of your favorite spring cleaning, good vibration tunes! Let’s celebrate the new season … and Shelli’s birthday! (All languages welcome!)
*** and look out for the eclipse tonight!
Last night, I was up late/early on the overnight shift with Wyntr. I was working on a project and thought to myself, “Self … You are really blessed! Life is GOOD right now”. Yes, things can always be better and because I’m an optimistic person and a hard worker there is no doubt in my spirit that things will get better. But right now … in this very moment I just wanted to take a break from working and say THANK YOU.
THANK YOU for your support on the grow out challenges, product reviews, comic book stuff, the fitness challenges, meet-ups, this new adventure of motherhood/family and everything in between.
You all are a part of a community that makes my wife happy, and you know the saying … HAPPY WIFE = HAPPY LIFE … so …
THANK YOU for continually being supportive of Shelli and Hairscapades.
and Shelli …
you’re the one I love …
that’s all … (drop microphone and walks away!)
*please excuse any typographical errors. Shelli didn’t proof this. I just wrote it and posted it
And so it begins. Post C-section Project Slim Down, that is. My doctor cleared me to start walking 4 weeks ago as I wanted to start 3 days after I got out of the hospital. However, I never actually got around to it. And, I don’t have any excuse since Pops Wei is at home helping, he takes night shift so that I get plenty of sleep, AND we have an angel baby who sleeps 1-2 hour stretches easy. However, I’m not beating myself up because … ya know … new baby. LOL! I know that there is still a new, dependent little person in the house and a new routine is needed. And, since hers is the most important, everything else needs to be worked around it.
All that being said, it is definitely time to start getting it together as I’ve putting weight on after having dropped all but 3 of the 25-26 pounds I gained. In full disclosure, I’ve also been eating horribly, so I’m up 10 pounds from my weight prior to pregnancy. My current weight is 147 lbs at 5’1″.
So, at my 6 week post-op appointment yesterday, I got the all clear to resume working out, albiet with the caveat that I need to start slowly.
My goal is to get at least 10 minutes of exercise daily, to regain my fitness and flexibility levels, and to get rid of the excess weight, of course. Hopefully, this stomach and back fat will go as I’ve never carried too much weight in my upper body (I’ve also been wearing a Bellefit corset and lubricating my stomach daily as I know the skin and abs needs assistance retracting).
That being said, today was Day 1 of another 10 Minutes A Day for 28 Days of Fitness! How apropos that my starting weight is only one pound less than it was when I did this in 2013 and turned it into 365 Days of Fitness. Hence the title of this post, “Here We Go…Again!”
This was shared with me on Instagram and now I’m paying it forward. At the Oscars on Sunday, Giuliana Rancic of Fashion Police said of Zendaya Coleman’s red carpet look, “I feel like she smells like patchouli oil and weed.” Zendaya was elegantly adorned and wearing faux locs.
Well done Zendaya. Well done.
In the past 30 days, what was formerly known as fatherhood and shall be called DADDYDOM henceforth, I have learned and been reminded about a few things … in no particular order … well except for the first being … God is GREAT and because of this, I am very blessed! And now … the rest of the list …
Little girls can direct their stream of pee.
People stay fakin’ the funk … talking about babies look so cute … WHATEVER! You know and I know that a lot of babies kinda look the same the first few weeks! It isn’t that they are cute … it’s that damn near all of ’em kinda look the same and no one wants to call them anything other than cute. We could call them chubby, low-functioning, little pie-faced blobs of new human-ness. Don’t get me wrong … they are cute, but that’s really because we’ve been conditioned to see them that way. But honestly, it’s not a special look.
I don’t see my daughter as a cute little baby to play with and spoil. I see her as the child for whom I am responsible. I have to help mold and prepare her for the world.
Wyntr Abrihet may never know her name because, in addition to being summoned by Wyntr, Wyntr Abrihet or Abrihet, she has a plethora of nicknames! Shelli calls her … Pumpkin, Boobie, booga, booga-booga, Sweet Potato, Chunka Munka, boo-key and other things. I call her: Lil’ Sunshine, Sunshine (But not like the character Sunshine in Boomerang), Chicken Wing (she does this thing with her arms … kinda like that dance Kendrick Lamar does in the video for “i”), Lil’ Mama, Wyn Boogie, Hiccup (she has had them since before she got here), and Stinky Booty. She might be a little confused. I can’t wait until her personality kicks in and she earns a real nickname. Wyntr is one of the FRESHEST names ever! No vowels. Y is only a part-time vowel. It doesn’t count! Who remembers this?!
Freeez – I.O.U.
Sometimes you just have let a baby cry. Don’t let the babies cry … figure out why they are crying. Sleep is a PRICELESS commodity. Women are super humans … if you don’t know why, then you may have subhuman intelligence. Babies are milk-a-holics. Music makes the world go around. It can have a great influence on an individual. When combined with a plethora of other factors, it has the ability to influence various aspects of one’s life. In my case, as someone who DJ’d on college radio and in lounges, it not only shaped who I have become, it also helped me to inspire others. I love that, in addition to listening to A Love Supreme by John Coltrane, Wyntr has jewels like these to chill her when she starts to get a little moody when being changed.
Having a measure of time to mark events and to try to schedule things is good … and needed … BUT … with babies, there are many moments that just happen without regard to time.
New fathers … you may never be the same after that first diaper of that merconium tar stuff! I still can’t comprehend how all that fit inside her. It must expand when it hits the air!
A baby’s immune system can easily be compromised, so you can’t really take them on road trips to DC and NC right away!
If you have a baby and you have a partner, wife, husband, special friend, significant other, etc. … communicate with them! And do it in a manner where you just assume that both parties are sleep deprived, hungry, and borderline insane. Meaning, be conscious about the pace, tone, wording, and non-verbal presentation of information.
Did I already say something about sleep having incredible value in a parent’s life?