Mini-Hairscapader: Kai’s HairStory


Prepare to fall in love all over again ladies … and, all you baby fever having ladies like me? Hide your ovaries!!


What’s your child’s name and age? Tell us a little about him.
My son’s name is Kai and he is 3 1/2. He loves animals and puzzles and cars … typical boy stuff, lol. He is the smartest kid I know (and I’m not biased because I’m his mom … the boy is a genius).

How do you care for his hair? What products do you use, how often do you wash/condition, what techniques do you use (i.e., how do you detangle), etc.?
Normally, I wash his hair once a week, usually on sundays before the school/work week begins. I begin with undoing the style he had for the previous week and slathering some sort of conditioner on his hair prior to shampooing. I then shampoo, apply a conditioner and detangle with the Denman Toddler D89 (amazing brush btw).

We mostly use Shea Moisture products, the Curl Enhancing Smoothie and the Shine and Hold Mist. For shampooing, I normally use the Suave Kids 2-in-1, because it has awesome detangling properties, prior to conditioning. But lately I have been using Cara B Shampoo. It does the job naturally without the harsh chemicals. For conditioning, I use whatever is closest to me, most likely Tressemme Moisture Rich or Suave Shea Butter Almond conditioners, anything with a ton of slip. Although, I’m really looking into starting to use more natural products. For styling, it’s either the Curl Enhancing Smoothie or Bee Mine Curly Butter. I don’t usually add additional product throughout the week, because his hair is in braids. But, I do spritz it every couple of days with the SM Shine and Hold Mist or Cara B Hair Mist.

Do the same products that work for you work for your child’s hair?
Kai’s hair is definitely a different texture than my own, so some of my staples don’t work well with his hair. But one line that I love that works for both of us is Shea Moisture. His hair loves that stuff.

What is a typical style? Do you employ protective styles? If so, how often?
His hair is usually in some type of braided style. I recently started to become better at cornrowing and have tried different techniques and styles that I have seen online. I also occasionally leave his hair loose a la Jaden Smith (RIP to that gorgeous mane of his). This is reserved for special occasions or pictures because in true toddler boy fashion, he rolls around on the ground, sweats and gets something stuck in it, which ends up causing a hot tangled mess at the end of the day.

What challenges do you face with your child’s hair?
I think the most challenging thing is picking styles that don’t look “girly” as he is mistaken for a girl ALL THE TIME. I also have gotten a lot of slack from other parents who don’t approve of boys having longer hair, my own family members included.

Have you ever relaxed/texlaxed your child’s hair?
No, I have not because a) he’s a boy (not that that has stopped Katt Williams) and b) I don’t relax my own hair. I prefer his natural hair because I feel like it fits his personality.

Do you have plans to cut his hair at some point or particular age? Please explain why or why not.
I get asked all the time (ALL THE TIME). I actually did cut his hair a few days after his second birthday and regretted it very soon after … like, almost immediately. He just didn’t seem like himself afterwards (that was probably all in my head). I decided to grow his hair back out, which in the long run worked out because he had that bald patch in the back like a lot of babies. After the haircut, his hair was able to grow out evenly. I still get asked when I’m cutting his hair and my answer is, “When he lets me know.” I don’t fuss over it or make him feel as though he needs it to complete him. It’s just another part of him that he thinks is “handsome.”

Anything else that you’d like to add?
I started a blog to help other parents of boys who aren’t quite ready to cut their hair or don’t plan on cutting it anytime soon. The blog is called Hair & Heart:


5 responses »

  1. He is just too adorable such a handsome lil man! I cut my son’s hair when he was two he is now 14 soon to be 15 and I still regret that decision.It completely changed his hair texture in my opinion.I recently started using Shea Moisture curl enhancing smoothie on my 2 yr old daughter’s hair and I love it. Not so much on my own though.S/B lol@ Katt Williams!


  2. He is so handsome!! This brings back so many memories-Chloe has two older brothers who wore their hair long and in Allen Iverson style braids (you do the math) for many, many years. I only knew of Afro-Sheen for moisture/shine and washing their hair when it was time to re-do and blowing their hair out with highest heat to straighten for braids…we needed blogs like this, more internet access and all the products that are out now. Thanks for sharing Kai’s hairstory!!!


  3. Okay, we older naturals have to step our games up…these baby naturals with their beautiful heads are fly! It is so refreshing to see parents nuturing their children’s natural hair. We need to encourage each other more often. Kai is a male model in the making. Good work Monica!


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