My Mom’s HairStory


5/12/13: In honor of Mother’s Day, here’s an oldie but goodie ;)! Love my mom! She is the definition of SuperWoman. She raised 3 intelligent, successful, respectful and God-loving daughters, went back to school after the third daughter to get her degree and became a teacher while working full-time and running behind my dad to help take care of his farm and many horses (I’m talking, cleaning stalls, walking horses, building fences, etc.). My sisters and I still marvel at how she did it all. I hope one day to be 1/3 of the mom that she is and am so blessed and grateful to call her Mommy!!!



Yes! You read that right! Mommy Hairscapades is in the house! LOL! I meant to do a natural hair interview with her on December 18th, when I saw her at a family get together. But, it got hectic and I never got the chance. Then, CurlyNikki re-blogged a post, Is There a Natural Hair Generation Gap? by Jor-El of Mane Man. I commented on the post using my mom as an example. That little exercise got me off of the pot and on the phone with my mom … and now and I have her hairstory to share with all of you!


Describe yourself in 100 words or less.
My name is Florence and I’m a child of God, 59 years young, a wife, the mother of three great daughters and grandmother to a sweet and silly granddaughter. I was an elementary school teacher in the public school system for 28 years and retired in 2010, but will always be a teacher. (Shelli: I answered this for my mom because she skipped this question! *lol*)

How long have you been natural and why did you chose to go natural?
I have had natural hair so long that I don’t remember when I went natural. I had a Jheri Curl for about 20 years before I went straight for a short time (too much maintenance). After that, I think I just had an Afro.

My mom is on the couch in light blue. That’s baby Shelli on my Mom-Mom’s lap!!

Did you transition from or big chop?
I wore a Jheri Curl until my hair would get too long and heavy to hold the curl. Then, I would cut my hair down to new growth. It would usually be cropped in the back and sides and longer on the top. My daughters would always ask me why did a get a curl when my hair was naturally curly. I have no idea.

What is/was your biggest hair challenge/obstacle?
As I have gotten older, gray hair is difficult to keep moist.

How did you overcome it or what are you doing now to try to address the problem?
I make sure that I don’t over wash my hair. I use a deep conditioner and change my products every couple months. My hair seems to get used to one product and it will no longer moisturize. My daughters also gives me advice on what products to try.

What do you love most about your natural hair and/or about being natural?
I am really not a hair person. I get up in the morning, look in the mirror, pick it out with my fingers, put in a little moisture (if necessary) and off I go. I am not a hair person. If you don’t like your hair, buy a wig, get a weave, add extensions, you can even glue some in.

What is your current regimen? Has it changed in any major way since you first went natural?
I don’t do much of anything as a regimen. I wash, deep condition and moisturize about every two weeks in the winter, a little more often in the summer.

What are your Holy Grail and staple products?
What ever is CHEAP or what I can get from my daughters for FREE!!! I am now using Eco Styler Gel with Moroccan Argan Oil and S-Curl Moisturizing spray. The cold air causes my hair to dry out more than normal. The gel coats it and it stays moist for a couple days and holds the curl pattern.

What is your “go to” style (share a picture of it, if you have one!)? Do you wear protective and/or low manipulation styles? If so, how often and why?
NO!!! (Shelli: lol! She is a WnG type of lady. When it was longer, she’d wear it in a pony puff. She’d also pop on a fake curly ponytail in a minute! She had a bunch of them!)

How often do you cut/trim your hair? How do you cut it (salon, DIY, straight, curly, in twists)?
My hair was recently cut very short in the back and sides, longer on the top. I hadn’t had my hair trimmed in over 3 years. I think that, due to the fact that I don’t handle my hair a lot, I don’t develop split ends. My hair is still thick and full. Of course, the gray doesn’t like color. I have tried henna, but it was not for me. The process was very timely and I could not get the color right. I didn’t like looking like a carrot top.

Has going natural impacted other areas of your life (i.e. health & fitness, style, environmental consciousness, etc.?) If so, how and in what ways has it affected your lifestyle?
I think my hair reflects the no-nonsense attitude that I have. It is not controlled and neither am I. It is free and I am free-thinking. People are used to me having uncontrollable hair. They either like it or they don’t. It’s their problem.

Do you have a “hair crush?” If so, who?

What advice would you give someone who is contemplating going natural and/or becoming discouraged with their natural journey?
Going natural is no big deal. Many older women (50 and up) now wear their hair short and natural. If you decide you want a change, just flat iron it straight, style and go. There are many options without always using chemicals.

Anything else that you’d like to add?
Try something new and different. You won’t know what you like until you have tried it. Don’t let your hair define you, define you hair.


Thanks Mommy (yup, that’s what I call her ;))!! You’re the best! Love you much!!

You know, this is the second parent interview we’ve had on Hairscapades. The first was Wei’s interview with his dad. I’m loving reading these and I got a kick-out of my mom’s answers. I hope that you did too :)!

That being said, is your mother natural, transitioning, contemplating transitioning? Is/has your father watched you and/or your mother, siblings go/stay/be natural and has some opinions of his own? Well, why not grab a pen and pad, laptop, iPad … whatever … and send in your mom’s HairStory and/or your dad’s In His Eyes Interview?!

(p.s. I hope that this goes without saying, but if you’re a 50+ natural and Hairscapades follower, I want your HairStory too!! Just find the HairStory interview that works for you. However, if you think that I need more specific questions that speak to the 50+ naturals/transitioners/big choppers, drop me a line! I’m open to all suggestions!)


17 responses »

  1. Thanks guys! Leah and Sophia, I was cracking up reading her “NOs!” and her holy grail products? Whatever’s cheap or FREE!! LOL!! That’s my momma:). I knew her interview would read something like this! LOL!!

    Jor-El, Awww, thanks! And thanks for prompting to get this done! Now, I’m after my youngest sister who owes me her story;).


  2. I love this interview! You definitely take from your mom (I call mine “mommy” too, and I’m almost as old as your mom, so I think that one just sticks!). I’ve been having a years-long conversation with my mother about natural hair. She’s stopped relaxing hers, but she still thinks her natural hair doesn’t look “right.” She loves mine, but can’t seem to like it on herself. I’ll definitely be sharing your mom’s story with her. Thanks!


  3. Love your mom, so similar to mine your mom is younger by a year, both retired educators, children of God – lol. My mom is newly natural, but thinks the internet is the devil hahahah so doubt if we can get an interview out of her. Loved this interview Shelli!


    • Awwww, they are kindred spirits! LOL! My mom actually likes the internet and her computer:). She finds crafts and ideas there:). She doesn’t spend time like us and absolutely no time on hair, but she does like it:). Thanks Terysa:)!! And, your mom doesn’t need to USE the computer. You just interview her and we’ll use the computer;).


  4. Great piece and so good to see your mom in all her fierceness. I see where all you ladies get it from! I love it. Don’t let your hair define you, define you hair.” Exactly! It’s just hair. You can cut it off and grow it again. It should not run your life. Though, my mom is convinced that I’m obsessed w/my hair. Haha! I just put in a lot of time taking care of it when I get around to. Now that I am “semi-natural” (heehee) my family loves it. They love my hair any way that it is because it’s thick and healthy and that’s all they care about. I’d love to see more moms being interviewed. As always, this is a great blog!


    • Teresa, I feel the same way … I’m not really obsessed with MY hair, I’m just obsessed with the topic and seeing how much is possible! And thanks for the kind words. I just knew that my mom’s answers would probably have me cracking up!


  5. Shelli,

    I really love this interview. Your mom was so honest and true to her self. I laughed so hard at the what ever is FREE comment because my mom says the same thing. It’s great you ladies are bonding through hair.


  6. Hello Shelli.

    I just had to visit your page, after seeing you take your time to respond to questions and handle criticisms (on blackgirllonghair some months back) on 2 blogs, calmly and courteously.

    Your mom sounds pragmatic lol. As I read her interview, I recalled your saying she wanted to see the length of your hair (seeing is believing lol), after which she didn’t make a fuss lol.

    I’ll be visiting your blog often.


    • Thank you so much Julia! You really made my day with this!! I feel it’s important to not respond to comments that feel harsh or negative in kind. So, I do my best to either respond politely or not at all and I really appreciate you noting that:). In regard to my mom, she is soooo funny to me:). I knew that she would be a real counterpoint to me in that she could care less about hair and I have a blog about it!! LOL!! She has always been one of those straight-from-the-hip, no nonsense shooters:)! LOL!!

      And thank you!! I hope to get to read more of your thoughts:)!!


  7. “They either like it or they don’t. It’s their problem.”

    Gone ‘head, Mrs. Shelli’s Mommy!! I love her comments. Tell it like it tis!!

    My Mommy is 70 yrs old and cut off her relaxer ages ago…I couldn’t even tell you when…neither could she! She’s been rockin’ a TWA for years now…both she and her two older sisters. I don’t think I could get an interview out of her (all she does is shampoo & condition and go to the barber every other month) and any products she uses…well, I actually use them on her…trying to get her to experiment with a few things. She’s OK being my guinea pig, but she won’t do/buy anything herself. Maybe I’ll try it just to see what she’ll say…that’s fit to repeat!


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