Daily Archives: December 22, 2011

Beyond Disturbing


Just saw a clip on TMZ about Toddlers and Tiaras. I have skimmed past the show a few times, watched 10-15 minutes and then turned the channel shaking my head. But this? This? This is beyond unbelievable and disturbing. It’s not even funny and I’m pretty disgusted right about now. Of course, I couldn’t be disgusted by myself and Wei would tell me to not even show him things like this. So, you get the “pleasure” of me sharing this with you!! This isn’t the clip that aired tonight, it just contains some of the same footage that led me here. *SMDH*

It’s truly sad how many of these mothers appear to be trying to obtain vicarious attention by parading their daughters around like prize ponies. I often think they must have been plain Janes or considered unattractive when they were girls and are doing all of this to prove to themselves and others that they are pretty. Like, if everyone oohs and ahhhs over how cute and pretty their daughters are, it must mean that they are too … because, you know, they came from the same genes. 

(p.s. I’m mad that I even have to categorize this under “Random Stuff I Like.” Because, I don’t like it. I don’t like it at all.)


Am I … ?


by Weusi

So …

I just learned of this term “militant natural” … evidently I’m kinda one … but not really sure …

I mean, I know that I’m a little bit of a “militant” … but the term “natural” is really the question here.

See, I know a lil’ sunthin’-sumthin’ about this stuff … but I’m a dude that is still learning about natural hair culture. So, occasionally I’ll ask Shelli about things that just seem to confuse me. Like … “Are you natural if you press your hair?” I mean, in my logic, if your hair is naturally curly but you straightened it, you’re not natural anymore. But I understand that you have just added heat and not any chemicals that are going to permanently alter the structure of your hair. So … ???

Are you still considered natural if you add synthetic hair or the hair of someone else to your head? Again … logically, you don’t call someone who wears a wig or has a lacefront natural, do you? BUT … I understand that this is done on occasion as a protective style so that you don’t damage your natural hair. So … ??

And, if it’s about manipulation of your natural hair pattern then … are braid-outs and twist-outs not natural? Or … if you even style, re-twist or tighten your locs, does that mean you’re not natural? I’m just sayin’ … natural is a kinda abstract term or idea.

I understand if you use natural products on you hair but … when you use natural products to do things like make your locs that are naturally black … have green, gold and red tips and/or highlights … that confuses me. If you use natural products to make your hair look un-natural. Ok .. maybe all that color stuff isn’t natural!?!

Anyway …

Please do not get defensive about these questions! These are questions that S.O.’s may have and I’m just letting you know … we’re a little confused! But we still love you … because honestly, we don’t really care that much about your hair. We just like the fact that you are happy. So … don’t even respond to this … just keep these things in mind and don’t go off on your S.O. when they timidly ask you questions like these.


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  • TUTORIALS – Love ‘em, want ‘em, need ‘em. If you are an aspiring, amateur hair stylist with great hair and greater styles, please share!! I’d especially love some tutorials for short and medium length hair as I often get those requests, but cannot accommodate them myself. Or, maybe you have a great DIY item or homemade recipe or remedy! Send me a bulleted picture tutorial or a YouTube video of your fabulous style, project or recipe for inclusion in the “Library!” Please use the subject, “Tutorial.”
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  • NATURALS AROUND THE WORLD (NEW FEATURE!!!) – I want to profile the stories of naturals or those transitioning to natural in the international community. I think that it would be very interesting to learn about the different experiences and various perspectives across the diaspora and in the homeland. How are our stories the same and what are the commonalities? How are they different and distinct? A HairStory can be used as the platform, but I wanted to break-out this topic to bring more attention to it and solicit these stories specifically. My goal is to present a more diverse perspective on Hairscapades. So, if you have one, please send your story, thoughts and insights with the subject, “Around the World.”
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