IT Happened!!


by Weusi

See … uhhh .. what had happened was …

Shelli and I went to a friend’s wedding reception last week.

I know that you read Shelli’s post about her girlfriends wedding reception thingy … and how she saw some co-workers and how she made new friends (that I hope are now reading this!).

What she didn’t tell you was that while she was off speaking, being Ms. Socialite, I was at the table getting grilled by the sisters at the table. One sister was telling some comedic horror stories about past dates and how I need to propose on Christmas or New Year’s. Then it happened. Someone came in with a little baby.

WOW. After the “awwww” moment wore off, I felt the pressure, so I tried to diffuse it:

“See, as a non-married couple, there is extra pressure when you attend a wedding. And now someone is throwing a newborn baby in the mix? I can’t win!”

We all laughed and grazed by conversation about the dynamic of being a couple at a wedding. And then … IT happened!!!

One of the sister told me (without being prompted), “I REALLY LIKE YOUR HAIR!” (Okay … I added the capitalized letters and exclamation point for a sense of emphasis that was only in my head.)

If you could have seen my smile! :mrgreen:

A part of the smile was because I laughed at the John Legend reference that followed the statement, as I’m used to hearing it by now and embraced it as the truly positive compliment it is.

I know this because I’ve been likened to other people and things that were assuredly not compliments! And as I reveled in the moment, I told them why I was so proud to hear such words.

I explained how Shelli ALWAYS gets that comment, that she has a blog and is a NHCI (Natural Hair Care Icon … I’m gonna keep using it, so that one day the term makes it into the Lexicon section!).

When Shelli returned to the table, we continued to talk and I bragged about the compliment. Then, as quickly as I was excited, I was quietly humbled when I remembered that before we left the house, Shelli asked me what I was gonna do with my hair.

BUT THEN … I got proud again …

Because I knew what the answer was. I’d just touch it with my secret, magical mix of juices and berries (Okay, you’re clamoring to know … I’ll just fill you in and let you know that the base is coconut oil). It keeps my hair with a healthy shine and it does something with my curls that Shelli likes. And truthfully, I’m a wash and go kinda dude, so I only have one answer to any hair question! Actually there are two … the second is … “Ask Shelli.”

And I’m sorry, but that’s the end of the story! Yeah, I know, but I’m better at commentary than storytelling.

The key points to remember are …

  1. I know what makes my hair look better and isn’t gonna damage it.
  2. I listen to my lady when I need aesthetic assistance.
  3. I plugged to new people.
  4. Shelli was happy (okay … that was a note to myself!).

Ohh … what? … you don’t like the way this ended and you want a little commentary from me? If you insist …

Okay. The wedding reception was cool, although … I’m not a big fan of marriage. I believe that marriage is a matter of love, commitment and communication and between two people. If they choose to share/communicate that with their community or align it with a religious ceremony is on them. I feel like “the formal institution of marriage” deals more with the business of the state than the hearts of the individuals being married. Now, even with this being said … I think that making the person that you feel you would want be with until the end of time happy is worth going through whatever drama that might be involved. I’m glad that Shelli and I are aligned in our repulsion of spectacle. I know that she just wants to take some pictures in a fly wedding dress … (to be continued!).



24 responses »

  1. I’m not talking to either one of yall. I was gettin’ my hairstyle and outfit all ready for the engagement dinner and then I had the wedding outfit and updo planned. Was about to order my special hair ornaments for the wedding and then of course there was a mental note at the back of my head to decide if you would have a girl would pink be too cliche for a gift or if I should just stick with white just in case you are told you’re having a girl and by chance it’s a boy…..No such luck. Don’t be playing with my feelings like that!

    Oh and Wei you really do resemble that dude 🙂


      • Neither did I Rece. When I saw him at the art gallery I was like “he looks so familiar”, but I couldn’t put my finger on it. LOL!


        When I started to read the post I was getting all teary eyed. I was IT happened!!!! Shelle and Weusi look so happy together, when IT does happen it will be great!!!


  2. Well, I’m going to shout “Congrats” anyway, gosh darnit. Sounds like that’s what’s in order with this suspenseful ending… to be continued… 🙂


  3. You guys are the best! The hilarious thing? He didn’t have a title. He wrote it and e-mailed it to me, I had to come up with a title for it and, “IT Happened” just seemed so apropos … and yeah, I kind of knew what you guys would think! LOL!! 😆


  4. Pure disrespect!!!! Y’all got my hopes all up. I practically squealed on the bus when I read the title. I read the whole post with a big smile on my face, then… NOTHING!!! LOL.


  5. Woah! He is a twin of John Legend! Nice!

    I’m totally vibing with that whole ‘take some nice pictures in a white dress’ deal. I’m obsessed with wedding shows and planning the event but I’m not quite sure if I believe in marriage as an institution…

    I figure If I hit 45 and no one’s around I’ll just hire a hot actor and have a staged ceremony. I want that cake!


  6. I am DONE! The title alone had me all excited especially with the picture that followed. I was so excited thinking you guys were either getting married and/or having a baby. Either way its great to see a couple of color loving and respecting each other.
    Weusi…John Legend looks like you as you are much better looking than him. Great post, thanks for sharing.


  7. That was a good one. Marriage sometimes looses the purpose and becomes a business. I took a retirement class and the lady said if we divorce HE CAN TAKE YOUR PENSION! , what do you mean!!??!? I love being married but for curver balls like this im like nuh uh.

    But your relationship is not defined by weither you get married or not. As long as you guys are secure and on the same page it doesnt matter, the paper , the ring, the dress , the hoopla.

    Good Job with this one! John Legend I can totally see.


  8. Am I the only one that knew IT didn’t happen!? lol
    I was too busy being nosey trying to figure out what IT was!!! Ya’ll didn’t fool me one bit! ; )


  9. I’m a lurker… coming out of hiding just to say you had me on the edge of my seat! I thought for sure you’d end the story by revealing that you proposed OR that there was going to be a little bundle of joy on the way. What a cruel title for this post! Lol! Oh well, back to my hiding place…


  10. LMBO!! 😆 I swear, you guys are really the best! TheNolaGal …. heeeeeyyyyyyyyyyy girl! LOL!! I love posts that make lurkers come out of hiding, but I’m a little bummed it wasn’t one of mine!! LOL! Not really:)!

    Oh, and it’s Wei that doesn’t too much worry about the marriage thing … sorry, I’m traditional and it’s not about the business of it to me but committing to each other in God’s eyes and your own. That’s why I don’t care about a big wedding, it’s never something that I dreamed of having as a little girl. I don’t like to plan, I don’t like all the hoopla. But, y’all are starting to know how much I love clothes ;), so I just want my dress, my flowers and some pics to remember the day. That’s it. One day … soon … because I’m not getting any younger as I pointed out above ;).


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