Daily Archives: November 8, 2011

Racist Cookie?


Okay, here’s another random moment. I was a massive fan of Scrubs. The guy crush between JD and Turk was a constant source of joy to me. I’m all about quirky, whacky, whimsical shows. Scrubs was all of the above with a dose of life lessons mixed in the hilarity. Anywho, I was reminded of how much I loved it this morning and wanted to share one of the wackadoo moments that came to mind. You only need to watch the first minute or so of the clip to see it:).

Oh, what the heck? Gotta share this one too! It’s a little “musical” number about JD and Turk’s guy love (a patient had a brain tumor that caused her to hear everyone singing. True story!)!! LOL!!

By the way, Carla’s Dominican.


October GOC Update: CJ



August 2011

Not the best picture, but an idea of how my hair has grown.

I’ve realized I need to quit experimenting with every possible product known to man. In the last 4 months, I’ve tried:

  • Hair Rules (hated it)
  • DevaCare (One Conditioner is great … everything else, eh)
  • Oyin Handmade (my hair is not a fan of castor oil)
  • Carol’s Daughter Hair Milk line and Honey Mimosa (my hair didn’t absorb it at all)
  • Wen (I liked it, but refuse to spend that much money on a 16oz bottle that’s gone after 8-10 uses)
  • Curl Junkie (CJ) Cleansing Conditioner (smelled funny and didn’t clean my hair)
  • CJ Coffee-Coco Curl Creme (I had to use soooooo much and it smelled … just, wrong)
  • CJ Curls in a Bottle (only worked on top of the curl creme–too much product)
  • Curls Souffle (coated my hair–without any definition–so badly I had to shampoo it off)
  • henna (made my hair unbelievably frizzy)

My stylist suggested using KeraCare … and now that I finally decided to listen to her and stopped all the experimentation, my hair is so much happier. (Shout out to Camille, owner of Noire Design Concepts Salon in Silver Spring, MD!!!!). So, right now, I’m washing with As I Am Coconut Co-wash (a new line for naturals created by the chemist in charge of product development for KeraCare. Reviews say it’s like Wen, but only $9/16oz.), co-washing with KeraCare’s Moisturizing Conditioner for color treated hair, clarifying with diluted ACV and DCing with KeraCare Intensive Restorative Mask. The only new products I plan on trying are KeraCare’s natural textures leave-in and twisting cream. Other than that … no more PJism for me. I end up broke and frustrated.




WOW!! That’s a lot of products!! That’s rough CJ, but it is all about trial and error and finding what works for you and what doesn’t. Seems like you figured out what to avoid, as well as your staples that get the job done! Your wallet is a little lighter, but it seems you were able to accomplish what takes some years to do. So, kudos! 

What products have you tried and kicked to the curb? Why?

Tales of a Transitioner: Kendall’s HairStory


Describe yourself in 20 words or less.
I’m Kendall. I have some alter egos. They try to co-exist. Young professional, living in NYC until I move again!

When did you receive your first relaxer?
My first relaxer was in elementary school.  I think I must have been about 7 or maybe younger.  I remember going to the salon and when my hair was done I was so amazed at the way it moved and flowed (just like the women on TV-yeah that brainwashing starts early). But I was even more amazed by the way that after she washed my hair I didn’t have any knots or pulling when she detangled my hair!  I was so happy to not have my hairdresser pulling and yanking the knots out of my tender little head that I was addicted to that feeling!  I never wanted to go back to sitting in the chair and crying over how much it hurt to detangle my natural curls.

Why did you choose to go natural?
Mainly I was sick of the damage! The heat and the chemicals just got to be too much and the more I thought about, I had been damaging my hair for most of my life. I didn’t, and in some ways still don’t, know what my hair looks like now. (My texture may have changed from when I was little).  While my hair has retained a good length while I was using chemicals and heat, it wasn’t healthy and my ends were always splitting or breaking off.  I love the idea that I have a head of who know what type of curl that I’m getting to know, embrace and take care of in a healthy way!

Senior prom - relaxed with glue on extensions. GLUE ON!!

Are you a long term or short term transitioner, and why?
As of right now, I’m about 7 months post relaxer! But it wasn’t until June of this past summer that I started learning about what it meant to be a “healthy natural.” I’ve been doing my research about the Big Chop and transitioning times and I think I’ve decided to be a long term transitioner.  The shortest I’ve had my hair was a bob-like cut a couple of years ago. I think, like most other transitioners who are long term, it’s about the preference of having a certain length of hair to work with, and I love being able to put my hair up and out of the way so that I can’t play with it. I’m planning to big chop and get rid of all of my relaxed ends after 2 years of new growth … so 2013 (sounds so far away right now but I’m going to make it!).

First time attempting to transition. Flat-ironed through attempt.

What was your initial reaction to your growing natural hair?
My reaction to re-discovering my natural hair  is one of excitement and fascination!  The more my natural hair grows out the more I just want to look at it and touch it!  It’s like meeting up with an old friend that you haven’t seen in a long, long time!  I just want to know all about it!  And every time I see a curl I get so excited!!

How did family and friends react to the new you? What was your response to them?
I haven’t experienced any negativity so far, but then again I’m still transitioning. For the most part, when I tell people that’s what I’m doing, everyone has been positive and supportive. I have to admit though that being in New York now has made a huge difference. I feel like if I had tried to go natural while at school in LA, it was a much bigger struggle in terms of the community outside of my closest friends and family. New York seems to be very pro-natural hair and whatever variations it may come in.

What is your transition routine?
I’ve finally got my routine down *pats self on the back*. On the weekends I deep condition my hair with Aubrey Organics GBP conditioner. I usually put it on and then throw on a plastic cap and let it sit for about an hour or so.  Then I shampoo with Giovanni clarifying shampoo, rinse, then shampoo with DevaCurl No Poo. But when I shampoo I only focus on the scalp and just let it cleanse my ends as I rinse it out. I follow up the shampoos with Giovanni 50:50 Balancing conditioner which I don’t rinse out.  I leave the conditioner in and run my head under the water for more slip and then use my denman brush to detangle. I usually put my hair into about 11 twists, braiding for the first inch or so by the roots and seal the ends with argan oil.

What is your staple transition hair style?
I’ve been keeping my hair tucked away, 1. so that I don’t play with it  and 2. to protect my ends from getting dried out. I usually leave my twists or braids in over the weekend and then come Monday will take them down and reapply oil and put them away in either a low or high bun. I keep it pretty simple with the hairstyles, just because I don’t have the patience to try to re-do fancy styles that are only going to last one or two days.

How did you moisturize your hair to prevent breakage at the new growth line?
I think keeping the conditioner in my hair helps keep it moisturized. But I also apply argan oil to my hairs and edges every other day. I’ve also started using Curly Pudding on the ends and edges to keep the frizzy-ness away. So far I haven’t seen too much breakage, although I know it’s coming as a part of the transition process.

What do you love most about your natural hair and/or going natural?
I love knowing what to do with it! Natural hair can be so overwhelming, which is why when I’ve tried to go natural in the past, I’ve relapsed and gone back to relaxers.  Learning about what was naturally given to me and how to care for it has been my favorite part of this transition so far.

Do you have a “hair crush?” If so, who?
There’s a young MC named Marz Lovejoy who is friends of some of my college friends who are in the music industry. She has some beautiful curls! And Corinne Bailey Rae! But I think everyone has a crush on her though!

Who do you follow online (i.e. blog/website, Youtube, Fotki, etc.)?
I found this site through Curly Nikki, but I also follow Chime “HairCrush” and Longhairdontcare2011 on YouTube. Terri from Tightly Curly has an amazing hairstory! I love looking through her pictures and website to see her transformation and to stay motivated through the transition phase. I actually use Terri’s method of washing and conditioning as the basis of my hair care regimen.

What advice would you give someone who is contemplating going natural and/or becoming discouraged with their natural journey?
Patience!  This is something I have to remind myself of every time I walk down the street and see a beautiful relaxed head of hair!  I think it’s important to think long term and know that the change you want to see won’t happen over night but it WILL happen! The other thing that I would stress is individuality. Because I’m transitioning, I’m not even really sure what my hair looks like naturally. I see the roots and that gives me an idea, but I’m trying to remember to do what’s right for me.

Transitioning - Pressed

Fun with Brooches!


It’s time for another fashion tip!! Many years ago (2004 I think), I saw this Gap ad campaign with Sarah Jessica Parker.

I fell in LOVE with how the bejeweled brooches were used to cinch the vibrant cardigan in an asymmetrical fashion and added such visual interest to the ensemble! So, I immediately set about finding some colorful pins to adorn and secure my sweaters in lieu of the buttons. Over the years, I’ve inherited and collected a few pins from my mom (turtle), Tarjay (flowers) and a Florida flea market (bugs, leaf and birds on branch).

Enamel and rhinestone brooches are my favorites.

I broke them out this weekend and I wanted o share how you can use one pin or a few clustered together to more tightly cinch and/or add some interest to an otherwise shapeless or bland cardigan or blazer.

Play around with the placement until you find an arrangement that suits you. You can close the cardi or blazer asymmetrically as I did here, completely covering the button and button hole. Or, you can use the button and cluster the pins to camouflage it.

Cluster multiple, complimentary pins.

Or, use one pin if a more subtle touch is your thing.

Whatever strikes your fancy. And don’t stop at the blazer button, cluster pins on your lapel, on a headband, a scarf or a hat, on a belt or at the waistline of a skirt. Hard pins aren’t the only options either! Break out those DIY flower clips/pins from the summer or make some new fall colored ones to snazz up any outfit! The only limit is your imagination!

Now, I need to find some more brooches to add to my collection!! 


Do you use brooches and pins to accessorize your wardrobe?