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NOTE: If you read a few of these to your SO and they nod their head in agreement to 5-7 of them … you are in a relationship with someone that accepts and “love(s) you just the way you are.”
- They start experimenting with the different bottles of stuff in the shower … and know which products they prefer (like that conditioner in the big, blue bottle; there’s always plenty of that).
- You have a comb or brush that they like to use in the shower (like that big, heavy black comb with two sets of teeth that feels like hands scratching your scalp or the little, oval hot pink shampoo scrub brush thing that looks like what my pops used to wash our dog!).
- They not only know when you are looking at someone’s hair … they know what you’re thinking … things like … “nice curl pattern” … “it looks so healthy” … “that’s a cute style” … “I like the way that frames her face” … “I don’t know why you are looking at her …. that’s not her real hair!” … “is her hair just pressed … or is that a perm?” (Okay, those last ones are just me).
- When they meet other people with natural hair, they start to share stories like they are their own and suggest that the other person go to Hairscapades and CurlyNikki and get products from sites like Oyin Handmade, Zuresh and/or Wonder Curl … And, when the conversation is over, they wish they would have gotten the other person’s information because they thought of even more sites that they could go to.
- It doesn’t phase them when you wear a hair bonnet, scarf, wrap and/or hat in bed … it’s business as usual!
- They start to look at their own hair more often … they start noticing when it may be dry or neglected … and know how to make it better with a co-poo and/or the right moisturizing and/or leave-in conditioner! (Plus they mention that they should get a haircut just to take care of possible split ends.)
- As their hairline recedes, they start to wonder and ask if there is a regimen of “natural no hair care” that they can implement. Oh … really? … That’s just me!?! Ok, I’ll claim that.
- They begin to understand and start using the acronyms and shorthand terms that are a part of the Natural Hair Culture.
And, if they start making up language and acronyms like NHCI (Natural Hair Care Icon) and help with meet-ups and all that kinda stuff … they’re done … they may need an intervention that involves sports, sweat and loud music somewhere within the span of 4 hours!