Monthly Archives: June 2011

Get Thee Behind Me, PJ!!!


So, yesterday, I was at Target for Sudafed (my allergies raised their ugly heads and I had to get my drugs. Had to settle for generic pseudoephedrine as Sudafed was recalled. Why didn’t anyone tell me?!?!). So, as I’m walking towards the register, what is staring me right in the face?!?! Frickin’ Shea Moisture and Curls products!!! Sitting there taunting me on the aisle display shelf! Soooo unfair!! And they had the SM Yucca Baobab Volumizing line that I’ve been wanting to try!!! I had the conditioner in my hand ya’ll, was walking to the register to pay for it, stopped in my tracks, looked at it, remembered my PJ Stash posts … 70+ products in my house and said “I don’t need this. Nooooooo!!!!” *pushing hand holding product away from self* “Get thee behind me!!”

Okay, but why was I, only 2 hours earlier, in the only beauty supply store (BSS – *note to self* add to lexicon) in NJ that sells Qhemet products trying to get my PJ fix on because CurlyNikki has been singing the praises of the Cocoa Ghee? See this post and this post and this post and then this post!!! C’mon, seriously, what’s a PJ to do?!?! Look at her hair, read how she hasn’t washed it in a month, see her keep extolling a product over and over and over again and tell me how could I resist my primal PJ instincts?!?!!

They were SOLD OUT!! D@#$!!!  A new shipment comes in today!! D@#$!!!!  I was in the area because I was meeting a friend who lives about a mile away from the store, but the spot is a good 30-40 minutes from my house/job!!!  He giveth and then he taketh away!!!  Grrrrrr Aaaaaarghhh!

(hmmmm … wonder if I can get my girlfriend to go pick some up for me after work?!)

Okay, has anyone tried either of these ? Reviews?  Good, bad or ugly?  Help a PJ out!!


HairStory Contest!!! *CLOSED*


Dont’ forget!!!  Send me your HairStory by July 31st and be entered to win any Ready to Ship item of your choice from the Etsy shop, Threadmill! Have you been to Threadmill?!?! This shop has the cutest variety of hand-crocheted hats that you’ll find and at the most reasonable prices. And, for any order you place from now until the end of July, you will receive 10% off of your entire purchase (excludes S&H charges) when you enter coupon code: HAIRSCAPADES10. How awesome is that?!?

A winner will be selected and announced in the first week of August.

So, get to writing and Happy Shopping!!

(p.s. The owner/artisan is the sweetest ever and ships items at the speed of light!! So, your ordering experience will be wonderful.)

UPDATE (7/1/11): Dottie, of Treadmill, will be on vacation for two weeks starting July 2nd. Therefore, she will not be able to ship items ordered in the next two weeks until her return.

Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Hair Milk + Smoothie Review: Take Two


As promised, I tried the SM C&H Hair Milk and Smoothie combo again. Here is a video of the TnC take down and my “take two” review (click here for “take one”). Don’t laugh at my “glistening.” YES! I’M GLISTENING!!  *lol*


My Albatross


I was thinking about how most of us have or have had hair challenges at some point in our journey. Even those with the most FANTABULOUS heads of hair, worthy of the hair envy and hair crushes of the natural masses, have probably struggled with some problem area or hair issue at some point in their natural HairStory (i.e. dryness, breakage, split ends, inconsistent curls, sections of hair that refuse to curl, heat damage, etc.). They had to figure it out and find a way to overcome their problem. Then, there are those who are in the midst of their struggle, madly searching for solutions. So, I thought, wouldn’t it be nice to have a category of HairStories related to hair challenges, past and present? These HairStories could be the platform for those looking for solutions to their most troublesome of hair problems and for others who’d like to share how they solved their worse hair issues in hopes of helping others.

Well then, I had to come up with a name for these HairStories. First I thought, “Challenges” then “Struggles.” But neither had a ring. Then the word albatross popped into my head. I know a few of you are probably saying, “Huh? Alba-waaa?!?!” LOL=). There’s a poem entitled the The Rime of the Ancient Mariner by Samuel Taylor Coleridge. It’s about a mariner who shoots an albatross and is obliged to carry the burden of the bird hung around his neck as a punishment for and reminder of his ill deed. Now, although some may believe going natural is an “ill deed,” I take exception with that idea. However, I do find Merriam-Webster’s definition of albatross apropos for my purposes:

b : something that greatly hinders accomplishment : encumbrance.”

With that said:

What has hindered the achievement of your hair goals and how did you get Your Albatross off from around your neck?


If Your Albatross is still hanging heavy and burdensome, what is it and what have you tried to remove it? Maybe we can help! 


Send your “My Albatross” HairStory to If you solved or are in the midst of resolving your problem, 2-4 before and after pics would be great. If you are looking for a solution to your problem, a couple of pictures that demonstrate the issue would be helpful too!




When I decided to get myself together in January this year, I didn’t go hard like I usually do. I avoided that approach as it inevitably ends in me falling off of the wagon due to burnout. I’d regain about 10-12 pounds and would then get my a@#$ back in gear, with resultant yo-yoing every year. (A word to the wise, it’s a lot easier to stay in shape then it is to get back into it. This fact becomes truer and more self-evident the older you get.)

So, this time around, I really took my time losing the weight. I didn’t eat “clean” every weekend. I love desserts, particularly buttercream. No, not cake, though I don’t mind that. I’ve had them both a few times over the last 6 months;). I didn’t work-out for 2 to 2 1/2 hours 5-6 days a week. I didn’t work out for an entire week 2 weeks ago. I didn’t hit the gym hardcore for daily weight and cardio sessions. In fact, I completely switched up what I’d been doing the last two decades of my life (off and on). I was a person who thought she could NEVER exercise at home. My whole mindset was, “Once I get home, that’s it, I’m done!” But finding the time to pack my gym bag every morning before work, along with my lunch bag and lugging it in and out of the house, in and out of the gym and the time added due to travel, changing at the gym, unpacking, etc. had become tedious.

Then, in January, I saw this KinkyShea Healthy and Fitness post on about exercising with Kettlebells. Coincidentally, my mother had given me a small 3 pound kettlebell for Christmas, but I knew nothing about using it. The article said that kettlebell enthusiasts claimed that this cast iron bell was all one needed to increase strength, endurance and aerobic capacity in a limited amount of time. The thing is, tests proved it!  My interest was piqued by the potential efficiency and comprehensiveness of kettlebell workouts. So, I wanted to learn more. And I did. In February, I purchased a 10 lb. bell from Marshall’s and Angie Miller’s Kettlebell Bootcamp DVD from Walmart. I also purchased some exercise mats and a cheap DVD player from Amazon and set up a little home gym in the unfinished half of my basement.

My first three kettlebell workouts had me laid out on the floor and sitting in a chair huffing and puffing. I couldn’t even make it through the entire workout the first time. I had to just sit and watch a couple of the segments while I warded off a heart attack!! 30 minutes after my first, half-aborted kettlebell workout, I finally caught my breath!  It wasn’t that much better the second and third go-rounds! But that fourth workout? The workout after I went away on vacation and went to the local gyms and felt like I was killing it on the treadmill after struggling with running for three months? Yeah, that following workout? I knew I was ready to graduate to a 15 lb. bell. I made this fact be known to my good friends and, for my birthday in March, I received the Bob Harber GoFit 15 lb. contour bell. NICE!!!!

Well, the rest is history. I’ve been working out in my basement ever since with my kettlebell, the Powerbody  Brazil Butt Lift DVD series and the treadmill (which, prior to this year, was used the number of times I can count on one hand). I also incorporate hot yoga (which I LOVE) at a nearby yoga studio 2 days a week. I’ve been mixing up the Angie Miller DVD routine with Bob Harper’s shorter, 30 minute tutorial (which is still intense, especially after interval training on the treadmill). I have definitely seen rapid improvements in my strength, endurance and aerobic capacity with regular kettlebell workouts (2-3 days a week). However, I have come to realize that Angie Miller’s form is not the best when it comes to swings (she leans over when the torso should remain straight as when doing squats). So, I’ve done a little research and want to purchase the highly rated Lauren Brooks’ Ultimate Body Sculpt and Conditioning with Kettlebells DVD. It’s been sitting in my Amazon cart for FOREVER! But, think I’ll purchase it once I do the Rugged Maniac on July 9th and am not running as much.

Have you tried exercising with Kettlebells?  If so, what has your experience been like?

(Check out My Current Regimen if you want to learn more about my diet and exercise regimen.)

Henna and Me – Shelli’s HairStory


(Post 2nd henna; May 2010; First attempt at a TnC)

How long have you been natural?
I’ve been natural for 11 years now.

How long have you been using henna? When did you start?
I began using henna around May of 2010, so for a little over a year.

What made you begin using henna?
A friend recommended to me as she indicated Nikki had hair that was similar to mine. She thought I might enjoy the site. Wow, was that an understatement!! I started visiting the site in February of 2010. I was blown away by Nikki’s hair! It was so lush, voluminous, shiny and defined. It also had a great shape and consistent curls. I read her post, I’m a Henna Head, on the benefits of henna. Then, I began to read every post she had on henna. I was especially interested in the strengthening, thickening and conditioning claims. After three months of research and growing intrigue, I bit the bullet and ordered my first six boxes of Jamila henna from Yeah, when I go, I go hard;). Nikki indicated that henna has a cumulative effect and it takes three treatments to see appreciable thickening and strengthening. She also stated that when she began using henna, she did weekly treatments in order to get these benefits as quickly as possible. So, who was I to question perfection;-)?

How would you describe your first experience with henna?
I’ll admit, I was very nervous as the process seemed involved, messy, long and overwhelming. But, I was well prepared. I’d watched Nikki’s video tutorial repeatedly. I had my old towels, plastic gloves, bonnet dryer, plastic spoon, bowl, green tea, honey, Sally’s GVP Conditioning Balm and HE HH. I was ready to go. I made a little bit of a mess the first time  around, but most of it was caught by the old towels. My hands got a little tinged by the rinsing process. However, the rinsing was easier than I expected. 

What type of henna do you use? Where do you purchase it?
Currently, I use Jamila and Dulhan. I get Jamila online from and Dulhan from my local Indian grocer, Patel Brothers, for $1.49!! I usually mix a batch using both to make my Jamila go further. I also use indigo that I purchase from I use indigo on the back half of my head in a two-step henna/indigo process. I love the way the henna turns my grey hair into fiery red highlights in the front. However, I think it makes my head look patchy if I allow it to stay red in the back. That’s why I use indigo on the back.

(Post 3rd henna; June 2010; WnG)

What is your mix? What is your process?
My mix and process have changed over the year that I’ve been using henna. Initially, I did “Conditioning Henna Treatments” as Nikki called her first attempt at a henna gloss. For the first several months, I mixed about 1 cup of the Sally’s GVP Conditioning Balm into dye released Jamila henna. I mixed about 100/150g henna with about 1 1/2 cups of warm green tea and a tablespoon or two of honey (I didn’t measure). I’d let that sit 12 hours and then I would apply it to co-washed hair. Now, I tend to alternate between a full strength henna on my roots only (except my nape hair, which is almost straight) and a full length gloss, both done on dry hair. I only do a full strength henna on my roots now as henna significantly loosened my curls when I was applying it religiously and repeatedly to the full length of my hair. I realize now that I only need to do about three treatments on new hair and then just gloss the length during that application or a couple of weeks later. I currently tend to mix 100g Jamila, 100g Dulhan, 1 1/2 to 2 cups warm brewed green tea (3-4 teabags) and a tablespoon or two of honey. As I only do my roots, this is usually enough for two applications. So, after dye release, I’ll split the batch and freeze one half of it in plastic wrap and aluminum foil. Frozen/thawed henna provides more intense color/dye uptake. Bonus, I don’t have to repeat the mixing and dye release waiting the next time. I just take the frozen henna out of the freezer a day or two before I want to use it and let it thaw in the refrigerator. If  I don’t think too far ahead, I let it sit on the counter in a bowl to thaw.

Once I’ve applied the henna to my whole head (in 6 sections, 3 on each side; working from back to front on each side), I wrap my hair in plastic wrap and don a plastic cap. Normally, I’ll let the henna sit in my hair for 4 hours, 2 under my bonnet dryer on the warm setting. After four hours, I rinse the henna in the shower using HE HH. Then, I mix a small batch of indigo with lukewarm water and a dash or two of salt and apply it to the back half of my head. I’ll let that sit for at least an hour (sometimes with heat, sometimes without) and then I rinse the indigo and apply my DC of choice (usually JessiCurl Weekly Deep Treatment or Darcy’s Botanical Pumpkin Seed Curl Moisturizing Conditioner; I tried SM Raw Shea DT Masque one time and I wouldn’t recommend it post henna as it doesn’t have enough slip). I leave my DC in anywhere from an hour to overnight. I let my hair cool for about 15 minutes. Then, I apply a diluted daily conditioner (Aussie Moist or HE HH) over my DC, rinse well with cool/cold water and then I’m ready to style.

How often do you henna?
I try to henna once a month, but sometimes go longer if I don’t have the time to do it. I try not to go longer than 8 weeks though. My goal is to do a full strength henna on my roots once a month and a henna gloss two weeks later. That hasn’t happened yet! LOL! What I do usually do is mix the henna left over after a root application with a lot of Conditioning Balm and gloss the length of my hair so that I get the full strength on my roots and the gloss on my length in one sitting. 

(Status ??? henna [I’d lost count]; Aug 2010; TnC)

How has your hair changed with henna?
Repeated applications of henna loosened my curls into waves, which wasn’t an effect I was seeking. But, other than that, henna has improved my hair in every way. I do believe that my hair is stronger, smoother, less porous and, therefore, less frizzy. I believe that my individual strands are thicker, but I don’t think henna has made my whole head of hair look more voluminous. My favorite thing about the changes henna has generated is the intense red of my grey hair and the overall color and shine.

How do you feel about henna and the process now?
The hardest part is making the time, but I enjoy it now. It’s like a spa day for myself and I get to watch TV or work on my blogs=).

What advice would you give someone who is thinking about trying henna?
First, do your research. Read everything you can about henna to decide if it’s right for you and so that you understand all the things you need to do to protect your hair and obtain the best results (i.e. ALWAYS deep condition with a moisturizing, cone free conditioner after henna). Second, be mindful that what works for others may not work for you. I was using amla to try to retain my curl pattern. I continued to use it despite noticing significant itching during the process. My head almost NEVER itches. After four months of this and what I believe was a significant increase in shedding, I faced the fact that my scalp did not like amla. I might have saved some hair if I’d listened to my scalp and accepted this issue earlier. I also might have preserved more of my natural curl pattern if I’d stopped doing full head applications sooner.

Anything else that you’d like to add?
I love henna!! The amla reaction and the curl loosening are issues I could have ameliorated or eliminated if I’d used a little more common sense. So, despite those challenges, I think using henna has been one of the best things I’ve done for my hair. So, if you’re interested in trying it, do your research, be prepared and go for it!

(Febuary 2011; Finally achieved the CurlyNikki!!; TnC)

“Big Chop” HairStory Questions




Describe yourself in 100 words or less.

What prompted your decision to go natural?

How long did you transition before you big chopped?

When and how did you big chop?

How did you feel immediately before and immediately after your big chop?

How do you feel now?

What is your current regimen? Go to products?

What are your hair plans/goals?

What, if any, “Hair Crazies” have you developed since big chopping?

Do you have a hair crush? If so, who and why?

Who is your favorite natural blogger, youtuber and/or fotkier and why?

Anything else that you would like to add?


E-mail YOUR “Big Chop” HairStory with 5-6 pictures to

Shea Moisture Organic Raw Shea Butter Moisture Retention Shampoo Review


Again with the mouthfuls!!  Well, I decided to be a guinea pig for you guys and try out the Shea Moisture Raw Shea Butter Moisture Retention Shampoo. Mind you, this is despite the fact that I haven’t been having much success with deviating from my DevaCare No Poo (In one of my senseless PJ attacks, I picked this up a couple a months ago and it’s been sitting under the sink yet to be used, until Sunday morning.),

Ingredients: De-ionized water, Decyl Glucoside (sugar beets), African Butyrospermum Parkii (Shea butter) (denotes certified organic ingredients), aloe vera leaf juice, Argan Oil, Panthenol (pro-vitamin B-5, rosemary extract, sea kelp extract, vitamin E, Lonicera Caprifolium (honeysuckle) flower and Lonicera Japonica (Japanese honeysuckle) flower extract.

Claim: “Our gentle, all-natural shampoo will help soften, moisturize and repair damaged, over-processed hair.”

So, wash weekend began with a pre-poo with Dabur Vatika Hair Fall Control Styling Cream (with JBCO on the ends) that I applied Friday night. As usual, I lightly finger-detangled my hair while applying the cream and created four twists. I didn’t have time to wash, DC and style on Saturday, so I wore a Banana Clip Bun on my pre-pood hair. On Sunday, around noon, I proceeded with my wash day rituals. I hopped in the shower after a sweaty hot yoga practice and saturated my hair with water. Then, I applied a little Herbal Essences Hello Hydration (HE HH) to the lower half of my hair. Next, I applied the SM shampoo and felt it immediately form a thick, foamy lather. It felt very rich and I liked that. I looked at the bottle again to check the ingredients as I was amazed at the lather generated without any SLS/SLEs!! But nope, no sulfates!! I used my little shampoo brush to massage the shampoo into my scalp and rinsed, allowing the lather to run down the length of my hair. That’s when the good times ended.

I applied HE HH to my hair and commenced finger detangling. It was not fun. I had to keep adding conditioner and going under the shower stream to try to get through some rough tangles, most of which were at the roots. Finally, I decided to loosely twist my still tangled hair and don a plastic cap to allow the conditioner to “marinate” while I washed my body. About 8 minutes later, I removed the plastic cap, applied more conditioner, went under the shower stream and continued my detangling efforts. I repeated.  Then I repeated again. Guys, seriously, I haven’t had a labor intensive detangling session since I stopped re-wetting my WnGs with water and started using leave-in conditioner. In fact, my detangling sessions have been like cake since January because I always stretch my hair with TnCs. So, this experience was not pleasant. There was this one knot on top that made me have a flashback to this time that I spent an hour trying to release a horrible tangle and finally had to cut it out with tears in my eyes!! However, it didn’t get that bad. I was really scared I was going to end of shredding the hair though. I was able to ease the hair up and down until the tangle released without causing any damage, it seemed.

So, I finally finished finger detangling. That’s when I usually rinse. However, I was concerned that there might still be some residual tangles, so I broke out the big gun: the Ouidad Double Detangler. That thing usually sits on the tub sill collecting soap scum. Not today. I raked my fingers through my hair under the Detangler to make sure there weren’t any knots that would snare the comb and rip my hair. All was well. I then twisted my hair into four sections, rinsed and then applied the SM Raw Shea Butter Restorative Treatment Hair Masque. As I indicated in my review of that product, although it has minimal slip, I find it very moisturizing and curl enhancing. I feel like it strengthens my hair and improves its elasticity. The slip issue I’m able to overcome by thoroughly detangling my hair with the daily conditioner and applying the DC on very wet hair.

In conclusion, the SM Moisture Retention Shampoo had a great lather and felt very rich. However, it either stripped my hair or raised the cuticle too much, resulting in excessive tangling. I may give it one more try on a small section without the shampoo brush to see if it makes a difference in the tangles. But, I make no promises. Seems there are still no contenders to replace my DevaCare No Poo, which leaves my hair feeling clean and as close to tangle free as any shampoo I’ve tried.

(p.s. I’m sitting with the DC in my hair as I write this. I’m going to style a TnC with the SM Milk & Smoothie combo over the Kimmaytube Leave-In. An updated review of that combo with results pics later this week.)

Have you tried the SM Raw Shea Butter Moisture Retention Shampoo?  What’s your experience?

Banana Clip Bun Tutorial (My Very First Video!!)


I made my very first hair video guys!! I was tired after driving a little over two hours to get home from a dinner event. But, when I received requests from Naj and Keisha for a tutorial of this style, I figured I’d give it a shot because I was wearing that very bun!!

A couple of notes, one of which I mention in the video. My hair was saturated with Dabur Vatika Hair Fall Control Cream. I applied it as a pre-poo the prior evening and didn’t have time to wash before I had to leave for the event the next day. The banana clip bun is my “go to” style when I’m in this situation and am going to a dressier event.  Second note, if your hair is significantly shorter, but long enough to fold, you should still be able to do this style. Rather than wrapping the hair around the bun, fan your hair evenly over the banana clip in a 360 degree formation. Then, roll sections of hair outward from the center of the ponytail and pin around the base of the clip, forming a doughnut like bun.

So, how’d I do for my first video?!?! Should I bother making any more=D?!?