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I’ve Become A Straight Hair Natural (without Heat Damage!!)



And I like it!! That’s right, I said it. I’ve been natural for 15 years, big chopped twice, and have nothing to prove. I love my natural curls. However, right now, I love the convenience and ease of straight hair a lot more! And, sometimes, that’s really all there is to it.

Anywho, with the arrival of the cooler and dryer air of autumn, it seemed timely for a straight hair post. So I’m about to share why I began straightening my hair regularly and how I have managed to do so for the majority of the last year without suffering heat damage (the latter of which always seems to be the mythical unicorn of the natural world ;)).


Anywho, I started straightening my hair around the 5th month of my pregnancy last year. When I realized that I could get at least 4 weeks out of straightened hair (sometimes 6), it was a no brainer given my increasing ungainliness and fatigue. When I had Wyntr in January, it again made sense as taking care of a newborn is two full-time jobs and I needed to give up my part-time (i.e. my hair on wash day). Then, as I was coming up on 3 months post-partum, I decided to straighten as a preemptive move to combat the threat of post-partum shedding. I figured that it would allow me to comb my hair between wash days in order to get rid of excessive shedding, making detangling easier when I did get around to washing it.

That’s the why. Following is the how. But first, two caveats. Number one: I do not care about having perfect hair 24/7. I don’t aim for bone straight hair and I live in a bun 99% of the time (Hello!! 8 month old!!). So, if you are looking for advice on keeping your natural hair straight and “laid” without heat damage … ummm … this may not be for you. Number two: I don’t have scalp issues, so I can easily go 4 weeks between wash days without excessive scalp build up/flakes.



Following are the steps I take and my products of choice. I don’t straighten my hair any more often than once every four weeks and if I can stretch it longer, I do.


  • Pre-poo to moisturize (virgin coconut oil mixed with Aubrey Organics GPB and/or Honeysuckle Rose)
  • Clarify to start with a clean base (Kinky Curly Come Clean Shampoo)
  • Protein treat to strengthen (Sally’s GVP Joico K-Pak)
  • Deep Condition to moisturize (Sally’s GVP Matrix Biolage Conditioning Balm)
  • Apply a leave-in* conditioner (small amount of Kinky Curly Knot Today mixed with aloe vera juice)
  • Apply a heat Protectant* (Herbal Essences Tea-Lightfully Clean Blow Dry Prep Mist)

*Note: I’ve found that it’s very important to use a leave-in and heat protectant that are light and don’t leave my hair tacky. This allows my hair to glide/flow once straighten and reduces the amount of lint and dust that it attracts.



  • Choose one or the other (this controls the amount of heat used on the hair):
    • Blow-out slightly damp hair OR
    • Air dry hair stretched (in 2-4 braids) and flat-iron (usually dry one day and flat-iron the next.
  • If blowing-out:
    • Use a quality tool (Conair Infiniti Pro 3 in 1 Styler with double comb attachment)
  • If flat-ironing:
    • Use a quality tool with temperature control (BaByliss Nano Titanium Pro)
    • Use lower temperatures (280-320º max)
    • Take small 1″ sections
    • Gently comb section well using a medium to fine tooth comb
    • Two to three passes of the flat-iron on each section max
  • Seal/Shine (Shea Moisture Raw Shea Reconstructor Elixir and/or Sally’s GVP Paul Mitchell Skinny Serum)


  • Never re-apply heat between washes (that’s a surefire way to cause heat damage).
  • Use heat free styling techniques between wash days: braids, buns, rollersets, curlformers, flexirods, pin curls, etc.
  • Bun, braid, pineapple, or pin-curl hair at night.
  • Use a satin bonnet or scarf and sleep on a satin pillowcase.
  • Use an edge control paste/gel (Ampro Protein Gel mixed with moisturizer – IKR??? Who knew?!; Curls Blueberry Bliss)
  • Use a terry-lined shower cap.
  • Forget the umbrella for the rain, use a raincoat with drawstring hood.
  • Apply a light moisturizer that doesn’t cause reversion, as needed (Wonder Curl Get Slick Hair Smoothie; Carol’s Daughter Healthy Hair Butter).**
  • Apply a light oil as needed to seal moisture/add shine (Shea Moisture Raw Shea Reconstructor Elixir and/or Sally’s GVP Paul Mitchell Skinny Serum).**
  • Oil scalp, as needed (Wild Growth Hair Oil).*
  • Exercise with hair bunned and use an open-ended wig cap under a sweatband. (I’ll admit, I haven’t worked out with any type of consistency since the baby and my work-outs have been moderate in intensity. But, thus far, this has worked for me.)

**Note: Again, it is important to use a light moisturizer and oil for maintenance to avoid tacky hair that attracts lint and dust. By reducing the amount of dirt the hair attracts, straight hair can be maintained for longer.

Finally, I do take a break between straight cycles sometimes with a stretched braid-out, twist-out, and even a WnG once! I also henna or henna gloss when I can. And those are my tips! Hope they help!

(p.s. My hair is the longest that it’s ever been and the fullest it’s been in a long time following this regimen.) 



Are you a straight-hair natural? What are your tips of the trade?








Exercise & Natural Hair: Wig Cap for the Win Again



This is just a quick little tip that I’ve been meaning to share for a while. A while back, I shared this post to tell you all how I started using wig caps to control my crown when air drying braid/twist sets overnight.  The wig cap is a lot easier to use than a hairnet and smooths my hair from temples, to crown, to nape.


Well, shortly thereafter, I realized that the wig cap was also great for helping preserve my hair while working out. I started using the wig cap last year while wearing my hair in two braids, but then I started using it with straightened hair too. The wig cap keeps my braided or bunned hair flat while allowing my head to breathe and providing an opening for my braids/bun, wherever they are placed. I use an oldie but goodie Dri-Sweat Edge Headband over my edges to absorb/whisk the sweat from my face. Once I’m done working out, I remove the sweatband and wig cap, apply an edge control product/gel, if necessary, and tie my hair down with a satin scarf while I shower, get dressed, and drive to work. The collage below is after two days (bottom left) and two weeks (bottom right) of daily exercise and prior to re-applying an edge control product. 


Not bad, right??


How do you preserve your hair when you exercise?

Wyntr’s Hair Regimen 


IMG_2550 Yes! The first Wyntr’s Hairscapades post has arrived!! LOL!! A few of you have been asking about baby girl’s hair regimen. So, while she naps, here it is and mini reviews of a couple products. Generally speaking, I only wash Wyntr’s hair once a week. We did have a bout of scaley build-up a month or so ago though, and then I washed her hair 2-3x in the week to handle it. The build-up came from using Honest baby oil and the leave-in conditioner, I believe. I have since eliminated those from her hair care. IMG_2520 WYNTR’S REGIMEN Weekly:

  • Pre-poo with about a dime-size amount of virgin coconut oil (VCO) a few minutes to a day prior to washing (whenever I get around to doing it!).
  • At bath time, dampen hair with water and brush scalp in a circular motion with Bean-b-Clean Cradle Cap Brush. MINI-REVIEW: This brush is like my shampoo brush that I love, but with very soft, flexible, and closely packed bristles. It really helped clear up the scaley, oily, build-up of dry skin on Wynn’s scalp. It wasn’t cradle cap, but think that might have developed if I hadn’t jumped on the issue when I did. This brush is specifically made to treat and prevent cradle cap, so I use it every wash.
  • Rinse hair with lukewarm water.
  • Apply and lather Shea Moisture Raw Shea Chamomile & Argan Oil Baby Head-to-Toe Wash & Shampoo w/Frankincense & Myrrh. MINI-REVIEW: Man, that’s a mouthful, even for SM!! Whew!! Anywho, this was a gifted product and I love it! We use it as both her body wash and shampoo. It smells great, lathers and cleans well, but not too much, is gentle to baby girl’s skin and hair (non-drying), and doesn’t sting her eyes.
  • Brush hair/scalp again in a circular motion with Bean Clean brush.
  • Rinse shampoo with lukewarm water.
  • Apply a small amount of VCO to damp hair.

IMG_2526 Bi-Weekly (or as needed):

  • Spritz hair with water.
  • Apply a small amount of VCO with fingers.

IMG_2539 And that’s it for this little natural’s ‘do! (p.s. You know that she woke up from her nap, right? LOL!)


What regimen have you found work’s best for your mini’s ‘do?

Here We Go … Again!


And so it begins. Post C-section Project Slim Down, that is. My doctor cleared me to start walking 4 weeks ago as I wanted to start 3 days after I got out of the hospital. However, I never actually got around to it. And, I don’t have any excuse since Pops Wei is at home helping, he takes night shift so that I get plenty of sleep, AND we have an angel baby who sleeps 1-2 hour stretches easy. However, I’m not beating myself up because … ya know … new baby. LOL! I know that there is still a new, dependent little person in the house and a new routine is needed. And, since hers is the most important, everything else needs to be worked around it.

All that being said, it is definitely time to start getting it together as I’ve putting weight on after having dropped all but 3 of the 25-26 pounds I gained. In full disclosure, I’ve also been eating horribly, so I’m up 10 pounds from my weight prior to pregnancy. My current weight is 147 lbs at 5’1″.

So, at my 6 week post-op appointment yesterday, I got the all clear to resume working out, albiet with the caveat that I need to start slowly.

My goal is to get at least 10 minutes of exercise daily, to regain my fitness and flexibility levels, and to get rid of the excess weight, of course. Hopefully, this stomach and back fat will go as I’ve never carried too much weight in my upper body (I’ve also been wearing a Bellefit corset and lubricating my stomach daily as I know the skin and abs needs assistance retracting).

That being said, today was Day 1 of another 10 Minutes A Day for 28 Days of Fitness! How apropos that my starting weight is only one pound less than it was when I did this in 2013 and turned it into 365 Days of Fitness. Hence the title of this post, “Here We Go…Again!”

Lata Gatas!

1 Month of #DADDYDOM … A Few Things I’ve Learned and Observed


IMG_8378by Weusi

In the past 30 days, what was formerly known as fatherhood and shall be called DADDYDOM henceforth, I have learned and been reminded about a few things … in no particular order … well except for the first being … God is GREAT and because of this, I am very blessed! And now … the rest of the list …

Little girls can direct their stream of pee.

People stay fakin’ the funk … talking about babies look so cute … WHATEVER! You know and I know that a lot of babies kinda look the same the first few weeks! It isn’t that they are cute … it’s that damn near all of ’em kinda look the same and no one wants to call them anything other than cute. We could call them chubby, low-functioning, little pie-faced blobs of new human-ness. Don’t get me wrong … they are cute, but that’s really because we’ve been conditioned to see them that way. But honestly, it’s not a special look.

I don’t see my daughter as a cute little baby to play with and spoil. I see her as the child for whom I am responsible. I have to help mold and prepare her for the world.

Wyntr Abrihet may never know her name because, in addition to being summoned by Wyntr, Wyntr Abrihet or Abrihet, she has a plethora of nicknames! Shelli calls her … Pumpkin, Boobie, booga, booga-booga, Sweet Potato, Chunka Munka, boo-key and other things. I call her: Lil’ Sunshine, Sunshine (But not like the character Sunshine in Boomerang), Chicken Wing (she does this thing with her arms … kinda like that dance Kendrick Lamar does in the video for “i”), Lil’ Mama, Wyn Boogie, Hiccup (she has had them since before she got here), and Stinky Booty. She might be a little confused. I can’t wait until her personality kicks in and she earns a real nickname. Wyntr is one of the FRESHEST names ever! No vowels. Y is only a part-time vowel. It doesn’t count! Who remembers this?!

Freeez – I.O.U.

Sometimes you just have let a baby cry. Don’t let the babies cry … figure out why they are crying. Sleep is a PRICELESS commodity. Women are super humans … if you don’t know why, then you may have subhuman intelligence. Babies are milk-a-holics. Music makes the world go around. It can have a great influence on an individual. When combined with a plethora of other factors, it has the ability to influence various aspects of one’s life. In my case, as someone who DJ’d on college radio and in lounges, it not only shaped who I have become, it also helped me to inspire others. I love that, in addition to listening to A Love Supreme by John Coltrane, Wyntr has jewels like these to chill her when she starts to get a little moody when being changed. image

Having a measure of time to mark events and to try to schedule things is good … and needed … BUT … with babies, there are many moments that just happen without regard to time.

New fathers … you may never be the same after that first diaper of that merconium tar stuff! I still can’t comprehend how all that fit inside her. It must expand when it hits the air!

A baby’s immune system can easily be compromised, so you can’t really take them on road trips to DC and NC right away!

If you have a baby and you have a partner, wife, husband, special friend, significant other, etc. … communicate with them! And do it in a manner where you just assume that both parties are sleep deprived, hungry, and borderline insane. Meaning, be conscious about the pace, tone, wording, and non-verbal presentation of information.

Did I already say something about sleep having incredible value in a parent’s life?

goodnight …


A Moment in Time



Hi y’all. Just popping in for a quick minute to let you know that baby girl is a month old now and doing very well! She is such a sweet, easy-going baby and we are so in love. Of course, it’s all about her right now. Eat, sleep, change and repeat. Man, everyone told us that we would need a ton of diapers, but I don’t think anyone explained the collateral damage diapers!! You know, the ones that never actually make it ON the baby because they are getting dirty catching stuff coming OUT of the baby WHILE you are changing the baby. Man … a case of 100+ diapers gone in less than 2 weeks?!?! What the … what?? LOL! But, it’s all good as she’s so worth it. Of course, this laid back demeanor is possible because baby girl is such an angel and Mommy is getting PLENTY of sleep as Pops started taking the night shift at 2 weeks (but think we need to switch off sometimes so Pops can get some quality daylight time).

Okay, gotta go! But, before I do, here are a couple of pics from our newborn photo shoot! Can’t share them all yet as the baby announcements haven’t been sent. But, once they are, I’ll post more!

Lata Gatas!



Welcome Wyntr Abrihet!!


WyntrDay4by Shelli and Weusi

The world’s newest superhero is here …

At 9:11 am on Friday, January 16th, the worlds newest superhero emerged to bless the planet in the form of the daughter of Shelli and Weusi. Her super powers have not yet been revealed, but her eyes seem to be hinting at something extraordinary!

Her bio …

  • First Name: Wyntr
    • a “W” name like her Pops
  • Middle Name: Abrihet
    • pronounced: Ah-bri-Het
    • origin: Ethiopian
    • meaning: “She Shines”
  • Weight: 6 lbs 1 oz
  • Length: 18″
  • Eye Color: Brown
  • Code Name: Classified


LOL!!  Wei put together most of the above announcement before Miss Wyntr entered her new world! I stole it to try to do this quick post while baby girl is asleep.

Just wanted to let you all know that the C-section went off without a hitch and, after Wyntr spent a 2 day stay in the NICU due to low glucose from sleeping rather than eating, all three of us came home last night as planned. Our first night went pretty well in that we all got a nice little extended four hours of sleep (should have been three though). This was appreciated as the prior night in the hospital, Miss Wyntr decided she wasn’t going to sleep from 2 am to 8 am. Sooooo … needless to say after a busy discharge day, I think we all needed the rest to recover. However, I know not to expect that on the regular … at least not for a few months!

Okay, here are a few more pics before I get out of here!!

We feel beyond blessed and favored and can’t help but fall more in love with her each day that passes. As always, thank you for all of the love, support, well-wishes, encouragement and, most importantly prayers. They are beyond appreciated.