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I’ve Become A Straight Hair Natural (without Heat Damage!!)



And I like it!! That’s right, I said it. I’ve been natural for 15 years, big chopped twice, and have nothing to prove. I love my natural curls. However, right now, I love the convenience and ease of straight hair a lot more! And, sometimes, that’s really all there is to it.

Anywho, with the arrival of the cooler and dryer air of autumn, it seemed timely for a straight hair post. So I’m about to share why I began straightening my hair regularly and how I have managed to do so for the majority of the last year without suffering heat damage (the latter of which always seems to be the mythical unicorn of the natural world ;)).


Anywho, I started straightening my hair around the 5th month of my pregnancy last year. When I realized that I could get at least 4 weeks out of straightened hair (sometimes 6), it was a no brainer given my increasing ungainliness and fatigue. When I had Wyntr in January, it again made sense as taking care of a newborn is two full-time jobs and I needed to give up my part-time (i.e. my hair on wash day). Then, as I was coming up on 3 months post-partum, I decided to straighten as a preemptive move to combat the threat of post-partum shedding. I figured that it would allow me to comb my hair between wash days in order to get rid of excessive shedding, making detangling easier when I did get around to washing it.

That’s the why. Following is the how. But first, two caveats. Number one: I do not care about having perfect hair 24/7. I don’t aim for bone straight hair and I live in a bun 99% of the time (Hello!! 8 month old!!). So, if you are looking for advice on keeping your natural hair straight and “laid” without heat damage … ummm … this may not be for you. Number two: I don’t have scalp issues, so I can easily go 4 weeks between wash days without excessive scalp build up/flakes.



Following are the steps I take and my products of choice. I don’t straighten my hair any more often than once every four weeks and if I can stretch it longer, I do.


  • Pre-poo to moisturize (virgin coconut oil mixed with Aubrey Organics GPB and/or Honeysuckle Rose)
  • Clarify to start with a clean base (Kinky Curly Come Clean Shampoo)
  • Protein treat to strengthen (Sally’s GVP Joico K-Pak)
  • Deep Condition to moisturize (Sally’s GVP Matrix Biolage Conditioning Balm)
  • Apply a leave-in* conditioner (small amount of Kinky Curly Knot Today mixed with aloe vera juice)
  • Apply a heat Protectant* (Herbal Essences Tea-Lightfully Clean Blow Dry Prep Mist)

*Note: I’ve found that it’s very important to use a leave-in and heat protectant that are light and don’t leave my hair tacky. This allows my hair to glide/flow once straighten and reduces the amount of lint and dust that it attracts.



  • Choose one or the other (this controls the amount of heat used on the hair):
    • Blow-out slightly damp hair OR
    • Air dry hair stretched (in 2-4 braids) and flat-iron (usually dry one day and flat-iron the next.
  • If blowing-out:
    • Use a quality tool (Conair Infiniti Pro 3 in 1 Styler with double comb attachment)
  • If flat-ironing:
    • Use a quality tool with temperature control (BaByliss Nano Titanium Pro)
    • Use lower temperatures (280-320º max)
    • Take small 1″ sections
    • Gently comb section well using a medium to fine tooth comb
    • Two to three passes of the flat-iron on each section max
  • Seal/Shine (Shea Moisture Raw Shea Reconstructor Elixir and/or Sally’s GVP Paul Mitchell Skinny Serum)


  • Never re-apply heat between washes (that’s a surefire way to cause heat damage).
  • Use heat free styling techniques between wash days: braids, buns, rollersets, curlformers, flexirods, pin curls, etc.
  • Bun, braid, pineapple, or pin-curl hair at night.
  • Use a satin bonnet or scarf and sleep on a satin pillowcase.
  • Use an edge control paste/gel (Ampro Protein Gel mixed with moisturizer – IKR??? Who knew?!; Curls Blueberry Bliss)
  • Use a terry-lined shower cap.
  • Forget the umbrella for the rain, use a raincoat with drawstring hood.
  • Apply a light moisturizer that doesn’t cause reversion, as needed (Wonder Curl Get Slick Hair Smoothie; Carol’s Daughter Healthy Hair Butter).**
  • Apply a light oil as needed to seal moisture/add shine (Shea Moisture Raw Shea Reconstructor Elixir and/or Sally’s GVP Paul Mitchell Skinny Serum).**
  • Oil scalp, as needed (Wild Growth Hair Oil).*
  • Exercise with hair bunned and use an open-ended wig cap under a sweatband. (I’ll admit, I haven’t worked out with any type of consistency since the baby and my work-outs have been moderate in intensity. But, thus far, this has worked for me.)

**Note: Again, it is important to use a light moisturizer and oil for maintenance to avoid tacky hair that attracts lint and dust. By reducing the amount of dirt the hair attracts, straight hair can be maintained for longer.

Finally, I do take a break between straight cycles sometimes with a stretched braid-out, twist-out, and even a WnG once! I also henna or henna gloss when I can. And those are my tips! Hope they help!

(p.s. My hair is the longest that it’s ever been and the fullest it’s been in a long time following this regimen.) 



Are you a straight-hair natural? What are your tips of the trade?








Exercise & Natural Hair: Wig Cap for the Win Again



This is just a quick little tip that I’ve been meaning to share for a while. A while back, I shared this post to tell you all how I started using wig caps to control my crown when air drying braid/twist sets overnight.  The wig cap is a lot easier to use than a hairnet and smooths my hair from temples, to crown, to nape.


Well, shortly thereafter, I realized that the wig cap was also great for helping preserve my hair while working out. I started using the wig cap last year while wearing my hair in two braids, but then I started using it with straightened hair too. The wig cap keeps my braided or bunned hair flat while allowing my head to breathe and providing an opening for my braids/bun, wherever they are placed. I use an oldie but goodie Dri-Sweat Edge Headband over my edges to absorb/whisk the sweat from my face. Once I’m done working out, I remove the sweatband and wig cap, apply an edge control product/gel, if necessary, and tie my hair down with a satin scarf while I shower, get dressed, and drive to work. The collage below is after two days (bottom left) and two weeks (bottom right) of daily exercise and prior to re-applying an edge control product. 


Not bad, right??


How do you preserve your hair when you exercise?

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Wyntr’s Hair Regimen 


IMG_2550 Yes! The first Wyntr’s Hairscapades post has arrived!! LOL!! A few of you have been asking about baby girl’s hair regimen. So, while she naps, here it is and mini reviews of a couple products. Generally speaking, I only wash Wyntr’s hair once a week. We did have a bout of scaley build-up a month or so ago though, and then I washed her hair 2-3x in the week to handle it. The build-up came from using Honest baby oil and the leave-in conditioner, I believe. I have since eliminated those from her hair care. IMG_2520 WYNTR’S REGIMEN Weekly:

  • Pre-poo with about a dime-size amount of virgin coconut oil (VCO) a few minutes to a day prior to washing (whenever I get around to doing it!).
  • At bath time, dampen hair with water and brush scalp in a circular motion with Bean-b-Clean Cradle Cap Brush. MINI-REVIEW: This brush is like my shampoo brush that I love, but with very soft, flexible, and closely packed bristles. It really helped clear up the scaley, oily, build-up of dry skin on Wynn’s scalp. It wasn’t cradle cap, but think that might have developed if I hadn’t jumped on the issue when I did. This brush is specifically made to treat and prevent cradle cap, so I use it every wash.
  • Rinse hair with lukewarm water.
  • Apply and lather Shea Moisture Raw Shea Chamomile & Argan Oil Baby Head-to-Toe Wash & Shampoo w/Frankincense & Myrrh. MINI-REVIEW: Man, that’s a mouthful, even for SM!! Whew!! Anywho, this was a gifted product and I love it! We use it as both her body wash and shampoo. It smells great, lathers and cleans well, but not too much, is gentle to baby girl’s skin and hair (non-drying), and doesn’t sting her eyes.
  • Brush hair/scalp again in a circular motion with Bean Clean brush.
  • Rinse shampoo with lukewarm water.
  • Apply a small amount of VCO to damp hair.

IMG_2526 Bi-Weekly (or as needed):

  • Spritz hair with water.
  • Apply a small amount of VCO with fingers.

IMG_2539 And that’s it for this little natural’s ‘do! (p.s. You know that she woke up from her nap, right? LOL!)


What regimen have you found work’s best for your mini’s ‘do?

SmocksnBondsBoutique Instagram Giveaway!



And so it begins … A few weeks ago, I came across this Instagram account, smocksnbondsboutique with the cutest little baby rompers! I fell in love with a couple of the ruffle booty variety ensembles, so I reached out to the Etsy owner, Lauren, to see if she’d be interested in letting me review one of her rompers and doing a giveaway. Well imagine my pleasure when she was interested in both!!

Well, I received this adorable pink and blue elephant romper just in time for the NJ summer heat!


The romper is so well-made!! The fabric is substantial, everything is double seamed, and it’s finished with a zig zag stitch! Lauren says, “I want that garment to last!” I was also very pleased that the bottom is closed with three zaps!! She knows about those diaper changes! As I wanted this romper to fit Wyntr the whole summer, I did ask for it to have a little room to grow, so the straps were a little long. But, I fixed that with a couple of safety pins in the back and by criss-crossing the straps. Then, we were good to go! All in all, I’m in LOVE with this romper and my pumpkin in it!! Seriously, who can resist a ruffled baby booty?!

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3 Months into Daddydom: More Things Learned & Observed


image by Weusi

So … it feels like a lot has happened since my last post. I’ve learned a few things in the past 3 months!

Shelli started back to work this week and my role as full time father got EXTRA real, but it felt really natural and I think I handled it well. Being kind of comfortable with the baby has me a little nervous, but then again, I’ve been doing this for 3 months already. I better have some idea of what I’m doing, right?

Well, anyway … I would like to start this with 2 special shout-outs.

Tameeka the Curl Whisperer of Jaded Tresses! At the baby shower, she gave us a bunch of baby wipes. And to my homie Gesthemane for making the baby wipe solution to keep me environmentally conscious! THANK YOU! I had no idea how many we would go through! It’s almost time to re-up!

Other things on my mind …

How can a baby look so cute when they yawn, but have breath that smells worse than spoiled milk! LAWD!

Don’t trust pacifiers.

THANK GOD for pacifiers!

You will know who your real friends are when they humorously respond to the emails and texts that you send in your state of sleep deprivation with serious information.

One should not try to do school work, such as writing papers or studying for a test, when you are on the tail end of the overnight shift when retention and punctuation are important.

You gotta know when and how to maximize the use of the dishwasher.

12 weeks is not 3 months … it’s 12 weeks … but … it’s 3 months too!

The rate of growth and development for a baby is mind blowing! Why were there clothes that she outgrew before she even got to put them on!?!

There is a MAJOR difference between Daddydom and Daddy Dom. When I say Daddydom, I mean fatherhood … not the Daddy Dominatrx kink stuff!

One should remember to take the burp cloth off of their shoulder when going out in public. I keep finding it on my shoulder when I am out and about.

Mixing formula is an art and a science. *hint: warm the water a little before you add the formula.

I still don’t have a nickname for Wyntr. Shelli calls her Pumpkin. Amongst other things, I still call her lil’ mama, peanut butter brown and lil’ doo-wop. I kinda like calling her by her middle name, Abrihet, but my favorite nickname for her is Stinky Booty!

I still don’t know what Wyntr is gonna call me. Right now, I am feeling “Poppy.”

Wyntr is road trip tested and ready to clock mileage! We recently traveled to Trenton, NJ where she saw my 100 year old maternal grandmother.

And then to Charlottesville, VA to see my 86 & 87 year young paternal grandparents (Virginia Granny and Pops).

wyntr and VA granny      20150403_112315

Then we dipped down to Virgilina, VA for the wedding of Shelli’s cousin, where she met up with the Gillis clan!


Afterwards we went to the Bull City, Durham, NC, and saw my parents and a few of my friends.

(Sorry … all my peoples were in disbelief that I was father and were so in awe of Wyntr that we forgot to take pictures!)

And then to DC to holler at a few more of my friends.

Yeah, we kinda forgot to take pictures again!


And then to Woodstown, NJ where Wyntr got to see Shelli’s other grandmother for the first time!


And her play Aunt Peggy.


And then HOME!

It was a great experience. No baby issues! And Wyntr had the chance to meet all 4 of her great-grandmother’s over the course of a week! That is 4 LIVING generations. Can everyone say GOOD GENES?! I love that we will show her pictures of the history of which she is a part.


I am the baby whisperer/the closer.

The other day, I got Wyntr ready so that we could go out and I could do some shopping!

image (Headband by jellybeancompany. Good people. Good product. The ETSY shop opens May 1)

And then she realized that we were not going to Buy Buy Baby and she went straight to sleep.



The takeaway from the experience: Wyntr is like her mother. She doesn’t like grocery shopping. But Wyntr has only been out shopping with me once. I will make it a part of our routine and I will try to teach her to love it. Secondly, it took me a little work to figure out this Baby Bjorn thingy, but it’s great for going out and doing things when you need 2 hands.

AND YO … Why didn’t anyone warn me that I would gain post-partum weight?! And on that note, is anyone ready for a fitness challenge starting May 1?

And that’s about all I wanna say right now!