Remember Jen, transitioning marine and my blogging buddy from the CurlyNikki presents Kim Coles GOC?!?! Well, guess what?! She’s a transitioner no more!! Jen Big Chopped and she sent me the video, so that I could share her huge moment with all of you!!
WOOH-HOOH!!!! Congratulations Jen!! You did it!! That ‘fro is nice!!
*I’m giving those household shears the side eye though. lol*
Describe yourself in 100 words or less.
Graceful, kind, loyal, authentic, eclectic, versatile, 29.5 years old, beautiful, intelligent, smart, professional, bright, wise beyond my years (according to everyone), delightful, momma, daddy, grandma, auntie and uncle’s girl. Nice to meet you. I am Alicia. May I ask your name please? Lol!
When did you receive your first relaxer?
If I remember correctly, I was about 7-8 years old. Young, huh? But you couldn’t tell me ANYTHING then. I was the “business” in my head! My hair was long and breaking off as the relaxer touched my scalp, I believe. Lol!
Weave fanatic
Why did you choose to go natural?
One word. Eczema. On my scalp. A serious scalp condition that made my head sooo tender and thin. My dermatologist told me, “NO more relaxers, NO color, NO excessive heat.” Isn’t it amazing that things work out for the good of those who trust the universe? I’m grateful for that experience because it made me look at my overall health condition and the harmful things I was doing to my body that we incorporate into our everyday routine 
.
Were you a long-term or short-term transitioner and why?
Short term. 3 months. Not that I didn’t try before. But, of course, that was short lived (only because my money wasn’t right for a couple weeks). Lol! As of now, it’s been 4 months since doing my final and last ends cut. Chop! Chop!
What was your initial reaction to your growing natural hair?
“I’m going to be bald.” I couldn’t see the light. I honestly thought my hair would be a TWA (teeny weeny afro) for the remainder of my life. And it was teeeeeeeny. Like a little longer than a boy cut. I was sooo ashamed. That’s why I don’t have pictures. I have a great texture of hair (as I believe that all textures are good textures. Some just easier to manage than most, but great all the same.) My visit to the dermatologist left me very afraid. I didn’t know what to do with it at all.
How did family and friends react to the new you? What was your response to them?
They were mostly questioning what I was doing with my hair. Some thought I was dreading or locs. It was different for most, but accepting in the same liking. God and my mom blessed me with a nice versatile face to walk around and look crazy for a minute. I tend to be very conservative and dress nicely, so they sort of knew that I wouldn’t be walking around looking too crazy. *lol*
What is your routine?
For now, until I absolutely learn my hair and make sure I properly take care of my scalp, I wash and co-wash every other week. My hair loves Shea Moisture products. They make a product specifically for eczema and other scalp conditions. I wash with their shampoo and conditioner and moisturize with their Coconut and Hibiscus Hair Milk. I use their Coconut Smoothie and finally seal with shea butter. During the week, I use shea butter and natural oils to keep my hair moisturized. And thank you Spirit Master, I have a little length.
What is your staple hairstyle?
For now, until I achieve my length goal (my hair is a little longer than a teeny weeny afro), I’m consistent with flat twists, twist out and twist out pin-ups (that is what I call them).
Pin up bun ... my faaavorite!
What techniques/products did you use to manage the demarcation line between your relaxed and natural hair?
I did a lot of top buns and used anything, bad and good, until I did some research on how to best take care of my hair. During the final transition, I blended with twist outs, flat irons and hats.
What is the most challenging part of transitioning and how did you overcome or cope with it?
The most challenging part for me was my ends breaking off. My hair was growing really fast at that time, so my relaxed ends broke off very quickly. That was scary. My hair was very thin and I had eczema really bad in one spot in my head, so my hair was very thin in that area. As you can see, my self-esteem went through a lot of changes. I’m so grateful for spiritual grounding. I was feeling really “ugly.”
Transition flat iron before final chop.
What has been the most fun/best part of going natural? What do you love most about your natural hair and/or going natural?
Well, apparently, I’m sexier with natural hair? Ummm, huh? Lol! But I agree with the guys. I love what it does for my features. My “guy” friend told me, “I love what you’re doing with your hair.” Family and friend support helps. I’m also very creative with styling. Transitioning made me value the consumption of water. I try to drink at least 60 ounces of water a day and I cannot WAIT to henna.
Do you have a “hair crush?” If so, who?
Corrine Bailey Ray. Drives me hair nuts.
Who do you follow online (i.e. blog/website, YouTube, Fotki, etc.)?
I stay on top of Curly Nikki and NaturallyCurly. Curly Nikki just does it for me though. Whooo! Loving on her! She is soo helpful and encouraging. And we are both petite, so I feel pretty okay about my hair if it gets bigger and bigger and bigger. And did I mention? … BIGGER!
What advice would you give someone who is contemplating going natural and/or becoming discouraged with their natural hair journey?
Just as you are patient when waiting at the post office, coffee shops for your favorite latte, or patient with falling in love, be just as patient with your hair. We tend to want to obtain overnight results, but even trees have to plant their roots strong. You are beautiful. Make-up or no make-up. Petite or thick. Short hair or long hair. Perfectly natural curly hair or relaxed. Regardless of what decision you make, ensure that you are comfortable with you. Thank you for letting me share my story. I hope to come back in 6 months with more length. Love you guys.
Describe yourself in 100 words or less.
My name is Marva. I am a laid back type of girl. I love spending time with family. I am enjoying life and all that it brings. I love meeting new people and I have a special place in my heart for the youth of today. I love learning new things and expanding my horizons. I embrace every quirky thing that makes me different and I LOVE MY HAIR (the good, bad, and unusual).
What prompted your decision to go natural?
My hair has always been thick since I can remember, but it started to thin a little around the crown. I had been relaxed since about the age of six or seven. I can say that my hair was always healthy until about 2 years prior. I saw the versatility that natural hair gave you, SO … I did it (I’m sort of compulsive).
How long did you transition before you big chopped?
5 months. First I cut my hair in a pixie cut and then transitioned for 5 months after that.
When and how did you big chop?
October 18th, 2010. I took my braids out and started cutting. I won’t lie, I was SCARED. But, I did it. I used to have a great fear of the unfamiliar, but NOT ANYMORE!
How did you feel immediately before and immediately after your big chop?
Honestly, WHAT DID I DO?! (For the first 30 seconds) I Loved IT!
How do you feel now?
Like superwoman: Invincible.
What is your current regimen? Go to products?
I usually twist or braid my hair after washing, then wear a twist-out or braid out for two to three days. That turns into a puff for about two more days. After that, it’s normally time to shampoo or co-wash.
What are your hair plans/goals?
Growth, Growth, more Growth. And, most of all, maintaining the health of my hair. I’ve recently been having an itch to color my hair, but the jury is still out on that.
What, if any, “Hair Crazies” have you developed since big chopping?
Not really. None that I am aware of.
Do you have a hair crush? If so, who and why?
Yes, of course. Ms.CurlyNikki, Ms.Mae from NaturalChica.com, Ms. Shelli from Hairscapades, Ms. Charyjay of Charyjay.com, Ms. Janelle Monae, Ms. Tanika Ray (Love her hair), Ms. Meechy Monroe and Ms. Tracee Ellis Ross (WOW … That’s a lot, but I love ALL HEALTHY natural hair).
Who is your favorite natural blogger, youtuber and/or fotkier and why?
Youtubers: CharyJay, Naptural85, NikkiMae2003, KinkyCurlyCoil, MahoganyKnots,Taren916, Whoissugar (LOVE!), SimplYounique, xGOLDn, MsVaughnT, and Fusionofcultures. I love these ladies’ channels because they promote how to maintain healthy hair that looks GREAT!
Anything else that you would like to add?
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE MY HAIR, UNCONDITIONALLY!
Describe yourself in 100 words or less.
My name is Carlisa. I’m 16 years old. I’m very outgoing,bubbly and different. I love reading! I love my hair and the whole world knows it. I love God and make an effort to follow Him .
What prompted your decision to go natural?
I decided to go natural because I would feel my new growth and loved the texture. I became curious and did research.
How long did you transition before you big chopped?
I transitioned for 5 1/2 months.
When and how did you big chop?
I big chopped on January 23, 2011. I went to Sally’s, bought some butterfly clips and shears. I went in my bathroom and simply began cutting. My best friend helped me in the back. I never looked back .
How did you feel immediately before and immediately after your big chop?
I was a little nervous while I was cutting, but I was giggling and excited. After my BC, I know it sounds cliché, but I felt so liberated! I loved my hair, I washed my hair and took pictures.
How do you feel now?
I am still very much “in love” with my hair.
What is your current regimen? Go to products?
For the next couple of days, I’ll keep my hair wrapped in a turban with the front out. I either pin the front twists like a side bang, or untwist and pin them. On the day before wash day I’ll rock a twist out and then repeat.
My go to products are: Hello Hydration, Aussie Moist, Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie, Eco Styler gel and coconut oil.
What are your hair plans/goals?
When I first BC’d, my hair was only about a couple of inches long. I’m not sure how many, but you can judge by the pictures. But now, I am at armpit length and my next goal is bra strap length .
Do you have a hair crush? If so, who and why?
Yes, stayrosey.tumblr.com! Her hair is absolutely beautiful
Who is your favorite natural blogger, YouTuber and/or Fotkier and why?
I love the blackgirllonghair blog, and CurlyNikki. BGLH has a lot of resources and has so many posts to go through. I find myself on their just about everyday *lol*. And CurlyNikki is very funny! Her blog was the first natural hair blog I went to for my transition. Gia is so cute!
Anything else that you would like to add?
I love being natural, and wish I went natural sooner!
Describe yourself in 100 words or less.
Hi, my name is Marci. I’m a working mother of 2 living in the south.
What prompted your decision to go natural?
I’ve been going back and forth with going natural for about 10 years. There were several times that I started transitioning from my relaxer, but I never made it past 3 months before I relaxed again – mainly due to lack of patience and lack of information on how to care for/transition to natural hair. The biggest factor in me finally doing it was discovering the wealth of information online about natural hair care. That gave me the confidence that I could make the transition and properly care for my hair. I think natural hair just suits my personality. I enjoy the freedom from relaxers, the way my natural hair sets me apart and I think my natural hair enhances my natural beauty.
How long did you transition before you big chopped?
I transitioned for 6 1/2 months. My last relaxer was May 17, 2011 and my big chop was December 10, 2011. I was initially planning to transition for a year, but I got to the point that I could not stand my relaxed ends any longer. I really didn’t trim them like I should have and they would tangle whenever I tried to do anything with my hair. I was also experiencing major breakage.
How did you feel immediately before and immediately after your big chop?
As soon as I decided I just wanted to go ahead and cut it, I was determined and nervous. I knew that I couldn’t wait too long or I would chicken out. So I decided on a Friday morning to do it, then I called my stylist. I didn’t hear back from her that day, so I called a family member, and she cut it for me the next day. She cut it dry, so I went home and washed it right after and I hated it. The next day, it was dry and shrunken and not at all how I pictured it, and I hated it more.
How do you feel now?
Now I love it. It has been almost 3 weeks and, after the first 2 days, I started experimenting with products and most have worked for me so far. I think I look better than I ever thought I would have with the short hair. I can see already that my natural hair just looks better with my face and I’m excited to experience the different lengths as it grows out. I feel a different confidence than I did before that I think comes with being comfortable with being myself – unedited – and not caring about other’s opinions about how I look. I get complimented daily on my hair since I big chopped, but I know that, even without the compliments, I would still love it because it feels like me.
What is your current regimen? Go to products?
It’s only been a few weeks, so I’m still fine tuning. So far, co-washing is working well for me. I washed with Giovani 50/50 right after my big chop and haven’t used a shampoo since. I co-wash every 3 to 4 days with V05 Moisture Milk conditioner. I follow with Aubrey Organics White Camellia Conditioner (sometimes adding EVOO) and rinse with cool water. I use Kinky Curly Knot Today as my leave-in. I use Shea Moisture Curl and Shine Hair Milk as a moisturizer/styler and then seal with castor oil. I very loosely two strand twist my hair at night. If I don’t, my hair will be matted and flat in the morning. The twisting helps with a little stretch as well as preserving my curls overnight. In the morning, I take down my twists and fluff my hair with my fingers to give it the shape I want. Sometimes I will use a little pure Aloe Vera Gel to help define some curls.
I just tried an apple cider vinegar rinse and, so far, I think I love it. I deep conditioned with Aubrey Organics White Camellia Conditioner and EVOO on dry hair before I co-washed. Then, I co-washed with V05. After I co-washed, I rinsed my hair with the ACV rinse. I then applied a little more Aubrey Organics conditioner. I reapplied the conditioner, because I read stories online about some people experiencing frizz and I thought that the conditioner could help avoid that. I worked the conditioner through and finger detangled, then rinsed it out with cool water. After that, I proceeded with my usual regimen. The next morning, when I took out my twists, my hair was softer and the most moisturized since my big chop. Now, I just have to figure out how often to do the ACV rinse.
What are your hair plans/goals?
Right now, my hair goal is to grow my hair out while keeping it healthy. Since I have a twa (2 1/2″ to 3″), my short-term goal is chin length, then I will move to shoulder length. Eventually I want it past my shoulders.
What, if any, “Hair Crazies” have you developed since big chopping?
So far, it’s just hard not to feel on my curls all day! And all the hair sites are, like, brand new all over again! LOL
Do you have a hair crush? If so, who and why?
I love Shelli and Curly Nikki’s hair, because both heads of hair look so healthy, shiny, and bouncy. I love Corrine Baily Rae and Yvette Nicole Brown. I see naturals all the time that aren’t famous that have beautiful hair and they are rocking it with confidence – those are my true inspirations that always made me pause and rethink my relaxer.
Who is your favorite natural blogger, youtuber and/or fotkier and why?
I haven’t really followed many YouTubers or Fotkiers. Curly Nikki was the first blogger I found and I loved her site, because there was soooo much information. And I loved the different hair stories that I found on there. I found Hairscapades through Curly Nikki and I liked how Shelli shares so much of her personal experiences and also reviews product information. These sites have been the easiest for me to follow and I go to them every day because I want more!
Anything else that you would like to add?
I would encourage anyone thinking of transitioning or big chopping to research and soak up as much information as possible. I know that there is so much out there that can be confusing or overwhelming. But, I think the more informed you are, the more likely you are to step out and take the natural leap.
Describe yourself in 100 words or less.
I am a daddy’s girl, a mother, a sister and a friend. I love to laugh, shop, eat and spend time with my family. I work full-time, am pursuing my degree as well as raising three children. I am still growing and learning about myself despite going on 40 in the near future. My hair journey has had ups and downs, but perseverance, patience and my PJism have kept me happy and nappy!
What prompted your decision to go natural?
First, let me start by putting it out there, I am bi-racial and my sister and I were raised by our daddy. So, you can imagine what our hairstyles looked like. Don’t get me wrong, he did his best and our hair was neat, but parts weren’t the straightest and there wasn’t a lot of variation to the styles we rocked to school. Once we were pre-teens, we would get the press and curls. But between the “bees stinging” me in the back of my head and sweating it out, they turned out to be a waste of time and money.
Fast forward a few more years and I got my first perm when I was 15 and I loved it. My frizzy, bushy hair was bone straight and finger-waves were smooth … oops, we’ll save that for a throwback post. Aside from having to get touch-ups, which I really only needed them every 6 months or so, oh and the occasional scabs (but that meant the perm took, right?), I didn’t really have any issues with the creamy crack. Keep in mind my “hairstory,” I never learned to do my own hair nor ever had anyone to show me how to take care of my hair. So, I had nor have any hair skills.
I have two boys who wore cornrows and both had two textures of hair. My oldest has looser texture of curly hair and my middle son has thick, coarser hair. They both had major hang-time. But, funny enough, my son with the thick and coarser hair has significantly more hang-time than his older brother with the easier to manage hair.
Fast forward again, here comes my daughter that was born with a head full of straight hair that grew and curled and curled with every milestone. One day I was researching Mixed Chicks and Miss Jessie’s products and reading the owners bios and it got me thinking about my own hair and if I had curls anything like my daughter’s – I don’t … lol.
How long did you transition before you big chopped?
My initial plan was to get an inch cut every 6-8 weeks, but I wanted desperately to see my curl pattern and couldn’t with the permed ends. So, ended up only transitioning for 6 months before I BC’d.
When and how did you big chop?
I inadvertently BC’d in February 2010. A friend of mine was wearing her hair in a short cute cut that was styled sometimes (looked permed to me) and she could wear it curly other times (looked natural to me). I asked her how and she explained she had a texturizer that allows her to wear it both ways … oh, I was very intrigued! I was wearing a bob with a bang when I started to trim and transition, so I knew that at least the length of my bang was perm-free when I went to my friend’s stylist. I sat in her chair and she asked me if my hair would curl and I didn’t know. She then asked how I wanted it cut and I said that I wanted the remaining perm cut out of my hair and she said, “Do you want a style or just the perm cut out?” … wth? “I want a style.” Well, she interpreted that to mean it was carte blanche to cut me darn near bald, hence my BC! The cut was cute, but aside from letting her or a licensed stylist curl my hair, I had no idea how to maintain it or even wear it curly like my girlfriend.
How did you feel immediately before and immediately after your big chop?
B-U-T-C-H is how I felt afterwards! I am not a big accessories girl. I pretty much wear the same studs day in and day out, lipgloss or lipstick if I’m feeling a lil’ glam. A TWA for MOI was not the most feminine look on me. My family liked when I got it done, but to wear it au natural was not their fave look for me. My sister called it a Jheri curl and my daughter said it looked awful – “Mommy, don’t you want long hair?” I made a promise to myself to stick it out and to learn and work with my natural hair for at least one year. And, if I still felt uncertain about it, then I’d get a texturizer, but not a full-blown perm, and wouldn’t revisit going natural ever again.
How do you feel now?
Well I am rearing up on Year Two and I’m L-O-V-I-N-G it! Thank God for the internet, internet shopping and faith! There is a wealth of information that wasn’t readily available when I was growing up and definitely not the products to manage and maintain natural hair. I obsess over YouTube videos, Curly Nikki’s blog, which featured Shelli (for a Henna post I think), and I am now stalking Hairscapades, Kimmaytube and KinkyKurlyQueen (just to name a few) and all the dang products that pass their lips.
What is your current regimen? Go to products?
My current regimen (if you can call it that) is ever evolving – lol. I’m still growing my hair out and as it grows longer the same products just don’t work the same anymore. HENNA is my BFF&EVER – I henna once a month and I’m going to start doing Henna glosses instead of full blown henna sessions to see if there’s a difference for my hair. Depending on the season and/or style, I co-wash 2-3 times a week and ACV rinses at least once a month. Products I use to condish are Organix Coconut Milk, Aussie Moist, and HH HE. For WnGs, I use Aveda Be Curly, Samy Big Curls Curl Crème or Tresseme Curl Milk. Ouidad just had a fab sale (4 full size products, a widetooth comb and 6 hair clips for $29!!!)! I’ve been wanting to try her Climate Control Gel and Moisture Leave-in, so I can’t wait to try those out. My leave-in is KimmayTube’s Leave-In recipe!!! And, most importantly, my curls love a white t-shirt; no towels in this head!
What are your hair plans/goals?
My first and foremost goal is H-E-A-L-T-H-Y H-A-I-R and maintaining it! Secondly, I want to learn and master some protective styles and I DESPERATELY want to learn how to do a TnC!!! I’ve had nothing but major fails with mine. I’ve tried the flat twist, the chunky twist, dry twist, bobby pins … ugh.com!!!! Ultimately, I want waist length hair. My friend (who just started her natural hair journey) just made my Hair Growth T-Shirt (I love it) and I was surprised to see that I had passed Shoulder Length!
What, if any, “Hair Crazies” have you developed since big chopping?
I guess I have two if I’m understanding what a “Hair Crazy” is (is this in the lexicon Shelli??). First is, some of my ends are straight, no amount of scrunching, clumping, wishing and hoping will make them curl. And my other is I want an AFRO PUFF *stomping and pouting*!!!! I know, be grateful for the curl you have, but man, nothing beats a big ole fluffy Afro Puff!!!
Do you have a hair crush? If so, who and why?
Of course I do! My most recent hair crush (thanks SHELLI) is the Wonder Curl lady … the color the curl … drool, dribble, drool! But SHELLI (love your TnCs, length and condition of your hair), CurlyNikki (TnC and the “bigness” of her hair) and Taren916 (she had that volume and did another BC – you go girl!). My biggest hair crush of all is my daughter!
Who is your favorite natural blogger, youtuber and/or fotkier and why?
There are so many, but my tippy top favs are:
YouTubers – Taren916; KinkyKurlyQueen; Richeau; Naptural85 and NikkieMae2003;
Fotki – SPIRAL, (where you at girl? Love your color) she has detailed albums with descriptions (love that); Richeau, (she is Empressi on Fotki), her hair is FAB and personality is even more FAB; and
Natural bloggers – just two, Curly Nikki because, without her, I would not know Hairscapades!!
Anything else that you would like to add?
This may sound corny, but definitely has been a lesson learned and given to you heartfelt … patience is vital (I guess that’s why it’s a virtue). Every curl is not the same (even the ones on your own head) and while you are stalking and obsessing online at the brave women who have shared their journeys with us, look first at where they began and not just where they are at. A lot have been on their journeys for years, if not all their lives, so their volume, length and/or knowledge base usually has a huge jump on your own.
Describe yourself in 100 words or less.
I’m a 30 something who has always been known for my straight (relaxed) hair. It was always long and thick. I had an attachment to my hair and, when I big chopped, I realized that other people had more of an attachment with my hair than I did.
When I was younger, around 18 years old.
What prompted your decision to go natural?
My hair got weaker and thinner after I became pregnant, then had a stillbirth (of twins). I was stressed out and have heard that hair loss is common after childbirth (I can say it’s true). So the combination of stress, the loss, plus a relaxer was no longer going to work for me. I also just wanted to break free of the old me and start anew.
Around the time I noticed thinning.
How long did you transition before you big chopped?
I stopped touching up my hair in April 2010. I transitioned for 4 months and did a semi-chop. Then, I did the real big chop in Feb 2011.
Styled after semi-BC
When and how did you big chop?
My grandmother, who used to do hair, cut my hair the first time. I did my real big chop myself. I saw a video of Iamsonotmyhair cutting her hair herself, and I got inspired to do the same thing.
How did you feel immediately before and immediately after your big chop?
I felt that I looked like a boy, but then thought, when I add make-up, jewelry, etc., I would look better.
How do you feel now?
I feel great. I feel like I’m learning about my hair every day. Fussing with my hair actually took my mind off of other things.
What is your current regimen? Go to products?
Right now, since it’s cold, I’m taking advantage of no humidity and wearing my hair straight about once a month or once every other month. My straightening session can last me 2 weeks, if not more. If it gets a little messed up, I then start putting 4-5 cornrows or do a twist out to make my hair last longer.
If I’m wearing it curly, I just wash and go and put it in a puff … or wash it, then do a twist out.
My “go to” products while my hair is curly are Tresemme Flawless Curls conditioner, Curl Junkie Daily Fix and Curls in a Bottle, Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie and Restorative Conditioner. While it’s straight, I still use Flawless Curls by Tresemme, Isoplus Pressing Oil and Aussie Sydney Smooth Anti-Humidity Spray to refresh and freshen my hair. I like Alterna Bamboo Oil to help give my hair shine. When I really need to wash and shampoo my hair to get rid of any buildup, I use Frederik Fekkai’s Apple Cider Clarifying Shampoo whether I’m wearing it curly or straight.
What are your hair plans/goals?
When my hair is fully dry, I want my curls to be touching my shoulders. So, I guess when it’s straight, it will be waist length? I really just want healthy hair.
Do you have a hair crush? If so, who and why?
Tracee Ellis Ross and Michelle Hurd. I like how luscious, bouncy and full Tracee’s hair is and I ‘ve always been a fan of Michelle when she was on SVU. I want that hair color too, but know it won’t match my skin tone. Oh well.
Who is your favorite natural blogger, youtuber and/or fotkier and why?
Blogs: Hairscapades, CurlyNikki, Questfortheperfectcurl
YouTube: denimpixie, MahagonyCurls, AfricanExport and Taren916.
Where can we find you online?
I started blogging, so it’s not advanced like you or the others. But, here is where I am:
http://nikkisbeautythoughts.blogspot.com/
http://nikkisthisnthat.blogspot.com/
http://www.youtube.com/miss0nder
And yes I’m another Nikki (middle name is Nicole).
Anything else that you would like to add?
Thank you for allowing me to share my story .
Describe yourself in 100 words or less.
Welp! Let’s see, I’m a twenty-seven year old Haitian woman of God. At least, that’s what I want my tombstone to read *lol*.
What prompted your decision to go natural?
I decided last December to just stop using relaxers since I was wearing wigs and weaves anyway. It wasn’t a goal of mine to be natural or anything, I just didn’t think it made sense to keep relaxing it. I rocked my half wigs on the regular, but didn’t know what to do with my actual hair (I’m NOT a girly girl when it comes to hair. I don’t even have pictures). But I was getting annoyed with having to deal with two different textures. So May 15, 2011, I had my sister put in a relaxer. What a hot mess!!! My hair broke so bad that clumps of hair came out while I was washing it out. One would think that I would freak out. But I really didn’t care, because I declared that it would be my last time ever getting a perm. So, back to my half wigs I went. I focused on keeping my hair clean and moisturized. I planned on transitioning for at least 6 months, then doing the big chop and getting braids.
How long did you transition before you big chopped?
I transitioned for approximately 4 months. Then I started getting the itch to snip!!!!
Transition: Pony Puff
When and how did you big chop?
I big chopped on September 24, 2011. One of my sorors referred me to Anointed Hands in South Plainfield, NJ. My hair and praise partner, Monet, came with me!
How did you feel immediately before and immediately after your big chop?Before I big chopped, I was a little nervous (I woke up at 4 that morning *lol*). It helped that the owner’s assistant who washed my hair big chopped a few weeks ago. Right after I big chopped, I felt too cool for words *lol*. I received a pep talk from the owner who did it. And she pretty much told me what I would endure as a natural, especially when I encountered negative people. I am forever grateful to her for that, it has really carried me through.
How do you feel now?
I’m happy and that’s a pretty big deal for me. This journey is not just physical, a majority of it is spiritual. I don’t know how else to describe it. I’m just happy and loving it!!!!!!
What is your current regimen? Go to products?
I keep saying that I don’t have a regimen and am trying to figure one out. But currently, I co-wash my hair almost daily, mainly with Herbal Essences Hello Hydration mixed with olive oil. I shampoo my hair once every two weeks with either a shampoo bar that I got as a sample from Pooka or the Shea Moisture Retention Shampoo. Same with the deep conditioner, but I use their Organic Raw Shea Butter Deep Treatment Masque. I use the LOC method (Leave-in, Oil, Cream) when it comes to moisturizing my hair. I use Kinky Curly Knot Today as my leave -in, Pooka Pure & Simple Nectar Oil and Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie. That’s pretty much it, when I’m not experimenting with samples that I pick up. Oh!!! And I LOVE Eco Styler (the Argan Oil one). I did sample two products that I am in LOVE with: Roots of Nature Mango Oil & Cupuacu Butter (butter whip coil cream) and Taliah Waajid Curly Curl Cream . I have to pick them up soon!
Do you have a hair crush? If so, who and why?
I would have to say Solange; she is just too fierce for me *lol*. She rocks her hair with such confidence that I expect her to say, “Say something!”
Who is your favorite natural blogger, YouTuber and/or Fotkier and why?
Okay, fave blogger is a tie between you (lol) for my technical questions and research and Rece from A Hair Story, because I absolutely LOVE her hair. Did I mention that I saw her at the Curly Nikki Meetup?!!! #str8geek! I couldn’t even hold a convo *smh*.
What are your challenges?
I don’t have many hair styles to do at this stage and my head is getting cold! *Eyes half wig.* Also, its hard to keep my hair from getting dry during the day, especially when I do where my wigs. My hair feels like it gets too matted.
What are you short-term goals? What about long-term?
Seriously, my short-term goal is to be able to rock a head band before the end of this year *lol*. That and just to get to know my hair better, since it’s totally different that I imagined. My long-term goal is to become more involved in my hair in the future. I keep hearing about twist-outs and what not, BUT I’m so not the girl who likes to do hair. I’m a work in progress!!!! Eventually, in like 5 years or so, I would like to get locs.
Anything else that you would like to add?
I, Gina B., am a certified Lurker and will work on breaking out of that habit. Smooches & God Bless!!!
11/17/11
The vivacious and entertaining Etoile (GOC Third Wave) shares her Hair Crush and pseudo Big Chop HairStory!!
(And yeah, I jacked and cropped a pic from the Sofistafunk party for this post;)!!)
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Describe yourself in 20 words or less.
Sorry no can do…I am one wordy chick! My name is Etoile and I am a certified, card carrying, licensed Product Junkie, daughter, lover, friend, sister, magic dust sprinkler and paid rain maker … marketing professional by trade.
How long have you been natural and why did you chose to go natural?
I chose to go natural because the chemicals had eaten away at my hair and it was over-processed, dry and damaged almost beyond repair. Going natural or going bald were the only two options … I decided going natural was the only route for me.
Did you transition or big chop?
I transitioned for 18 months. I have had long hair for the majority of my life and I was not ready to lose my length. I transitioned for so long so that I would be able to continue to wear my two signature styles … buns and ponytails.
What is/was your biggest hair challenge/obstacle? How did you overcome it or what are you doing now to try to address the problem?
Keeping it moisturized. What worked on my dead relaxed ends did not work on my natural hair. For now, I am pre-pooing with oil (evoo or jojoba) and I am also making sure to deep condition without fail every single week.
What do you love most about your natural hair and/or about being natural?
I LOVE my coils and curls, I LOVE my big hair, I love the versatility and I love, love, love that no one else in the world has my head of hair.
What is your current regimen? Has it changed in any major way since you first went natural?
When I began transitioning I had no clue as to what would work or would not work for my hair. Name a product and, yep, I’ve tried it. I did not have a set regimen, I washed too frequently and I did not deep condition often enough. My current regimen consists of: Pre-pooing weekly with oil, either evoo or jojoba. I then wash, shower detangle and deep condition. I apply leave-in conditioner, styler and seal with an oil mix and either wet set on large rollers to bun for the week or do 2 strand twists, which I keep in for 3-4 days and then wear in a twist out until wash day. If I need to moisturize during the week, I do so with a few spritzes of my version of the Kimmaytube leave-in. For more detailed info check me out on the Hairscapade Grow Out Challenge!
What are your Holy Grail and staple products?
Olive oil and jojoba oil. Both products have been LIFE savers for adding much needed moisture to my formerly over-processed locks. I also love my version of the Kimmaytube leave-in condish recipe. Recently added to my mix and I will say are becoming HG products are my Doris New York Leave-In Conditioner and Olive Oil Cream. Both leave my hair very soft, supple and shiny.
What is your “go to” style? Do you wear protective and/or low manipulation styles? If so, how often and why?
My low manipulation style of choice is my bun. I suffer from a serious case of HIH aka Hand In Hair Disease and since I have fallen in love with my coils and curls, I could spend the day playing in them. Keeping my hair pulled up and away keeps my hands out of it and keeps me from having to fuss with it during the day.
How often do you cut/trim your hair and how do you cut it (salon, DIY, straight, curly, in twists)?
I just started seeing Tameeka of Christo Fifth Ave in NYC. She was PHENOMENAL! She listened to me and gave me a fab cut and color. She cut my hair while it was wet and did an amazing job. I would HIGHLY recommend her. For now I plan on listening to my hair and getting it trimmed every 3-4 months, as needed.
Do you have a “hair crush?” If so, who?
Umm you, Curly Nikki, Tracee Ellis Ross and Yvette Nicole Brown.
Who do you follow online (i.e. blog/website, Youtube, Fotki, etc.)?
Hairscapades, CurlyNikki.com, NaturalChica.com, TheGoodHairBlog.com, BGLHonline.com
Where can we find you online?
www.curvealicious.blogspot.com
What advice would you give someone who is contemplating going natural and/or becoming discouraged with their natural journey?
Be patient, whether you chose to transition or big chop immediately, you will have to learn how to care for your natural hair. You will encounter challenges along the way. Do not look at another natural and expect your hair to look like hers. No two heads of hair are the same … but the reward is incredible. I have a thick, full head of healthy lucious curls.
Prepare to be blown away by this Seventh Wave GOCers August update!!
C o r i n n e
I will be 32 years old next month and I have never … EVER … had short hair. Short to me was shoulder length. I have been without a relaxer for 2 years now. However, for about 1 year, I was getting Dominican blowouts and I thought they were the best thing since sliced bread! It wasn’t until I really became interested in natural hair and the health of my hair that I realized my texture had changed. I really didn’t notice until I looked at some old pics of my hair before the blowouts.
My hair had gone from ringlets to waves. I was like, “What the heck?!?!” Things changed again when I tried henna. I loved the way my hair felt, but those waves turned into bone-straight tresses!! So, I have been saying that I’m just gonna cut it off in the new year. So, I do my bantu knots, twist and curls … and my hair is not doing what I want it to do. The roots look fab, but the length/ends look weak!
I will never forget the day I drove to a Hair Cuttery for my 15 buck hair cut. I tell the lady that I want my hair cut short. She tells me it’s too long for her to cut “that short!” I guess she didn’t think I was serious, so she only cut it to my shoulders and put layers in. I kept telling her shorter, shorter … she said I should cut it gradually. So, needless to say, I left mad because I had psyched myself up to get it all cut off and I had left not doing that.
I go home and wash my hair to see if I still had the straight ends … I do!! To make matters worse, I’m looking in the mirror and I hear a rumble. Then the earth beings to quake!!! Really!! An earthquake on the day I decide to cut my hair!! This must be a sign!! LOL.
Well, I still didn’t like it, so it took me a little more time to work my way into another salon and I told the stylist I want to take it off. She starts cutting around the ends … I say, “No, I want you to take it ALL off. I want all the straight ends off!!!” After all the, “Girl, why are you cutting all that hair off,” “Girl, people pay for your type hair,” and “Girl, I can’t believe you are doing that,” I was ready to take the scissors and cut it myself! When the stylist saw that I was serious, she began to cut … and I felt like a weight had been lifted. I refused to leave another salon without my hair gone!! I got my hair cut the day before my 5 year wedding anniversary! My husband was surprised to say the least, but he knew I was going to do it eventually! I love it and, most importantly, I have my curls back!! My goal is to be heat free. I saw first hand the damage it can cause. I may still use my hooded dryer … but I want to be totally heat free for a year. So that’s my BC story! It is the best decision I have ever made in my hair life! Thanks for reading!!!
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LOL @ the “Girl, why you cutting all that hair off ” and “People pay [good] money for hair like yours.” I’ve heard that before!
Awesome story Corinne!! That was inspiring!! And, you look great!! Congratulations on you BC and best of luck on your journey back to healthy curls! Can’t wait to see what your hair looks like at the end of the challenge!!
Did you BC? At a salon? What was your experience like?
(If you want to get detailed, send in your BC HairStory by answering the questions found here! Don’t forget to send in before and after pics!!)
